Most dating advice promises to lead us to lasting love, but erodes our chance of ever finding it. It relentlessly focuses on one thing — your attractiveness. In reality, the secret to success is less about your attractiveness, and more about your attractions. The list is endless: Learn to be irresistible. Play hard to get. Act confident. Become an alpha man. Attract an alpha man. Become a feminine goddess. Become a bitch.  These tips shine with the promise of self-transformation, but embedded within is an ugly Trojan Horse — the belief that, when it really comes down to it, you’re simply not attractive enough. Seductive and compelling as it may be, this path is a decoy and a…

When your partner is dealing with depression, you want to be as supportive and loving as possible. But it’s hard to know what to say or how to help, especially if you’ve never experienced depression firsthand. Starting a conversation with your significant other is critical, but sometimes offering the wrong words ― while well-intentioned ― can do more harm than good. We asked experts to tell us some of the most damaging phrases people with depression hear from their loved ones and what more compassionate things you can say instead. Don’t say: “You need to get help.” Instead, say: “I’m worried about you and us. I love you and want to…

We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down. ―Kurt Vonnegut Jr. Creativity is internal Creativity begins within the person. The creative juices flow out into the material or physical world. The material world is not what creates the creator. The creator’s mind makes the physical. You are the creator. No need to criticize—instead, begin to understand others and phenomena. By focusing on the inner, you will not need to engage in random patterns in your life. We do not know how much we are capable of if we do not put forth the effort. It is the mind at work. If we believe we…

—  Grief never ends, but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith. Grief is the price of love. -Unknown Often, we learn to love without one day expecting that it may change. We may learn to love unconditionally, without reason, intention, or restitution. We may love like we’ve never been and won’t ever be hurt, while in fact, this may be love in its purest, most open, and trusting form. As much as we love, inevitably, we will all one day find that love hurts and that grief is the price we pay for having had…

I am amazed at how many stories I read online, stories told by friends and people I meet, and documentaries I watch about individuals in love relationships that make them miserable and depressed and in a constant state of drama in their life. I think it is sad and I don’t understand it. Love is supposed to bring you up and make your life better, not worse. Here are six scary signs that tell you that you are in the wrong relationship- and if you see many of these you need to get the heck out and find someone else. #1 — Abuse. I don’t care if you are a…

After watching James Baldwin‘s words in honest and truthful language living and breathing in the documentary “I Am Not Your Negro,” I could not help but look at the state of being and becoming privileged. Being privileged is a state of mind, a state of how we view our personal worlds. In the land of the free, by the mere fact that we live in America, we are privileged. Even our poor live a lifestyle of having cars and technical devices such as cell phones, tablets, flat screen televisions and internet access. We have high expectations of a quality lifestyle and we believe in our right of having our own…

[embedded content] In the world of dating apps, there’s playing the long game, and then there’s straight-up procrastinating.  One pair of college students have found fame after dilly-dallying for three long years on Tinder, messaging back and forth without ever actually meeting up. But, at long last, they’ve met in person. Live on TV.  Michelle and Josh achieved viral fame earlier this month, after Josh tweeted screen shots of their three-year long running gag of late replies to each other. Tinder caught wind of the pair’s procrastination and even offered to pay for the pair to go on a date.  The pair have FINALLY met for the first time on…

Think about these brands and consider what they have in common: Facebook, Drake, Beyonce, Pinterest, Quora, Stephen Curry, Instagram, Snapchat, Dropbox, Jennifer Lawrence, and Airbnb. Yes, they’re relevant. And yes, they’re incredibly influential. But more importantly, they’re either Millennials or are founded by one. Often derided for being lazy, unable to focus, entitled, or self-absorbed, we Millennials inch closer and closer to taking over the economy, culture, technology, and much of the conversation about life and everything it encapsulates. But do we have what it takes to lead the world and make a positive difference? Millennials have surpassed baby boomers—people born between 1946 and 1964—as the largest generational demographic in the…