Best Sex Toys for Couples: 10 Types to Try Together
Last updated October 21, 2026 by the Marriage Bliss Editorial Team.
The best sex toys for couples are the ones you both feel comfortable using: couples’ vibrators, bullet vibrators, finger vibrators, lubricants, massage tools, and positioning pillows are the most popular beginner-friendly choices. Many couples find toys add variety, make it easier to talk about what feels good, and take the pressure off “performance.” This guide covers ten types of couples’ toys and accessories, how to choose, and how to bring it up with your spouse. It’s general information for adults, not medical advice.
At a glance
- Best for beginners: a water-based lubricant, a small bullet vibrator, or a finger vibrator.
- Best for shared use during sex: a couples’ vibrator or a positioning pillow.
- Best for playful, low-pressure fun: massage oil, card games, and blindfolds.
- Look for: body-safe materials (medical-grade silicone), easy cleaning, and quiet motors.
Why couples use sex toys
Toys are tools, not replacements. Used together, they can help partners explore, communicate, and keep things fresh. If conversation feels awkward, start with talking about sex with your spouse. For more ideas to keep things fun, see keeping married sex awesome.
10 types of toys and accessories couples enjoy
1. Water-based lubricant
Good for: everyone, every time. Lube reduces friction and discomfort and works with silicone and latex-safe products when water-based. It is the simplest upgrade and a good first purchase.
2. Couples’ vibrator (wearable)
Good for: shared stimulation during intercourse. These curved or flexible vibrators are designed to be worn by one partner while the other still enjoys the sensation. Look for a quiet motor and adjustable intensity.
3. Bullet vibrator
Good for: beginners and foreplay. Small, discreet, and easy to use for external stimulation, solo or together.
4. Finger vibrator
Good for: adding stimulation to what you already do with your hands. A small band or sleeve worn on a finger keeps things intuitive and low pressure.
5. Remote-controlled vibrator
Good for: teasing and anticipation. One partner holds the remote while the other wears the device, building tension over an evening. Agree on boundaries and settings in advance, especially for public or semi-public settings.
6. Positioning pillows and wedges
Good for: comfort and new angles. A firm wedge can reduce strain on hips and backs and help couples with mobility or comfort concerns.
7. Massage oil or candles
Good for: relaxed, sensual touch. Choose massage candles or oils made for skin, and check that they are compatible with any condoms or toys you use (oil can damage latex).
8. Blindfolds and soft restraints
Good for: exploring trust and anticipation. Start with a soft blindfold or silk tie. Agree on a stop word and take turns. Never use restraints that could restrict circulation or breathing.
9. Couples’ card or board games
Good for: playful couples who want ideas without pressure. Cards that suggest activities, fantasies, or questions can start conversation. See adults-only games for date night.
10. Edible body products
Good for: a playful twist. Use products labeled for body use and avoid sugary products internally, which can irritate some people.
How to choose body-safe products
- Materials: medical-grade silicone, glass, or stainless steel are non-porous and easy to clean. Be cautious with porous materials and strong chemical smells.
- Cleaning: wash with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner after each use, and store separately.
- Lube compatibility: use water-based lube with silicone toys.
- Allergies and sensitivities: stop if you notice irritation, and ask a doctor about concerns. See sex toy materials to look for and avoid.
How to bring it up with your spouse
- Choose a relaxed, private moment, not mid-argument or right before sex.
- Frame it as curiosity: “I’ve been thinking it could be fun to try something new together.”
- Ask what your spouse is comfortable with, and respect “no.”
- Shop together or pick something small to try first.
- Check in afterward about what you liked.
If one of you feels threatened by the idea, that’s normal. Toys can add to a sex life without replacing a partner. For more on intimacy and desire differences, read handling mismatched sex drives and building intimacy.
Frequently asked questions
What are the best sex toys for couples?
Beginner-friendly favorites include water-based lube, bullet vibrators, finger vibrators, wearable couples’ vibrators, and positioning pillows.
Are sex toys safe for married couples?
Yes, when you choose body-safe materials, clean them properly, and use compatible lubricant. Stop if you feel pain or irritation.
How do I talk to my husband or wife about using toys?
Be curious and low pressure, ask for their feelings, and start small. Respect any boundaries.
This article is for adults and is general information, not medical advice. See a healthcare professional about pain, health conditions, or sexual health concerns.
