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The Science of Sexual Satisfaction
Maegan Boutot first published this on her Medium blog. A happy sex life is an important part of a fulfilling life. What a happy sex life means is subjective, as our sexual desires, expectations and needs differ from one another and change as we grow and age. Some people want to have sex daily, while other people are content never having sex throughout their lifetime. The subjectivity of sexual satisfaction is an important consideration in research and diagnosis of sexual dysfunction. On the World Health Organization (WHO) quality of life survey, the four questions that ask about participant’s sex lives are all subjective (1). Relatedly, although about 4 out of…
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The 12 Stages of Having Married Sex, as Told by a Guy
DAY 1: That wedding night sex where it’s either completely amazing, or you don’t bother and just go to sleep. It’s your wedding night, which means either you’ve been looking forward to this for a really long time, or you’ve already had so much sex and you’re so exhausted from your wedding day, you just like, “LOL, we can do it in the morning.” It’s OK. Lots of married couples do that. But if this is your first time having sex, you’re running on pure adrenaline and curiosity. Also, congratulations on having sex! DAYS 2–10: Honeymoon sex. “Honeymoon” is code for “boning a lot somewhere cool and maybe we rode…
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18 Tweets That Hilariously Capture The Experience Of Married Sex
Some couples have sex almost every night. Others are perfectly content doing it every other month or even less frequently than that. Regardless of which category you fall into, the 18 spot-on tweets below will sound awfully familiar to married folks. 1 There comes a point in every marriage where one of you becomes the IT guy during sex: “Did you try jiggling it? MOVE I’LL DO IT MYSELF!” — Blinky McBlinksalot (@nagunnatelya) May 20, 2015 2 I’m best at sex when I’m a little ragey so for foreplay, we watch a few episodes of House Hunters. — Valerie (@ValeeGrrl) May 20, 2016 3 *has sex with bedroom…
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The Sexist Stigma Against Depressed Men—and How to Fight It
As a woman, I feel comfortable telling people that I live with bipolar disorder and I often experience clinical depression. However, I’ve heard from my male friends that they don’t have the same experience about opening up about being a man and having Depression. In my mind, this is a societal misperception and indicative of sexism. I believe that everyone with mental health issues has the right to feel their feelings in a candid way and speak about them openly. I was inspired to find out more about how men experience Depression. I started with the staff of The Good Men Project for commentary on the subject. Michael Kasdan, attorney…
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7 Reasons You Should Be Jealous Of Married Sex
Recently, I was driving down a crowded New York City street near a large college campus. It was late, and I was in a mad dash to get home because I’m old now and I had kids to get on the bus in the wee hours of the next morning. As I inched down the street, my eyes fell upon young college kids crowding the cafes and bars. I noticed the lithe frames of the girls in tiny tank tops and perfectly straightened hair, and I observed as guys with starched shirts and ironic shorts stood around sipping craft beers. Sitting at a stoplight, I watched as the girls flipped…
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43 Married People Confess Why They Stopped Having Sex With Their Spouse
1. We got married and had kids. “Easiest way to scale back your sex life? Get married. Easiest way to reduce it to twice a year? Have kids.” —SVTRocks 2. My wife decided three years ago sex is too ‘icky.’ “My wife decided three years ago sex is too ‘icky.’ No discussion no easing into it. Just ‘Nope, not anymore.’ Our marriage isn’t going well.” —annoyingone 3. He likes to finger keyboards more than my vagina. “He likes to finger keyboards more than my vagina.” —RadioISMyFriend 4. Simply put, we hate each other and cheat regularly. “Simply put, we hate each other and cheat regularly, but we also have a…
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6 Easy Ways to Spice Up Your (Married) Sex Life
If you’ve been married for more than a few years, chances are you and your mate have fallen into a routine – from who takes out the trash to who picks up the kids from school. And while getting into a groove can be a good thing, when it comes to your sex life, it’s best to aim for variety. Spicing up your sex life can improve your relationship with your partner and result in a host of health benefits. “Sex is an aerobic activity, which means it can boost your heart health,” says Rachel Needle, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and sex therapist based in West Palm Beach, Florida. “One energetic act…
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Is sex necessary for a happy marriage?
As a marriage counselor, I see a lot of couples who come to me with sexual problems in their relationship. The stories that couples tell me about their sexual difficulties vary, but most of them go something like this: He wants more sex and she doesn’t. He says he needs sex to feel close and she doesn’t see why her snuggling, cuddling and stuff she does around the house doesn’t do it for him. She says she needs to feel close first to have sex and he doesn’t see why sex doesn’t help her to feel close. At the end of the day, she doesn’t see why sex is so…
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Study Shows Better Communication Results In Better Sex!
Men report better sex lives when they communicate with their partners about intercourse, according to a new study. Researchers asked couples to keep sexual activity records and complete partner performance surveys after sex, and found that men in particular reported significant improvement in their partners’ sexual performances. “The mere fact that the couple discussed sexuality more in their relationship and that they had to keep a joint diary helped to enhance their sexual response,” said Michaela Bayerle-Edershe of the Medical University of Vienna, in a press release. The finding was essentially an accidental outcome. Bayerle-Edershe and colleagues set out to measure the effects of treating women who reported chronic lack of sexual desire with the…
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7 Tips For Keeping Married Sex Awesome
Have you ever heard the “Bean Jar” theory of married sex? Before you get married, go out and buy a big glass jar and a big bag of beans. On your wedding night, during your honeymoon, and every time you have sex thereafter, put one of the beans in the jar. Keep doing this until you’ve been married for one year. Now, in your second year of marriage and in every subsequent year: each time that you and your spouse have sex, you are to remove one bean from the jar. The jar will never be empty in your lifetime. Aside from the dubious mathematics and outdated exclusion of sex-out-of-wedlock,…
