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Why So Many Couples Are Having Less Sex
New research finds a decline in sexual frequency. Americans are getting it on less often. That’s what my co-authors and I found after combing through data on over 25,000 American adults who were asked how often they had sex: The average adult now has sex 9 fewer times than the average adult claimed in the late 1990s. The declines were largest among married people living with their partners, who now have sex 16 fewer times a year. That decline has been in effect on for a while, since at least the late 1990s. Never-married people had sex more often in the 2000s than in the 1990s as the norms around premarital sex changed, but after 2008, that group’s…
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5 Big Signs Your Sex Life Needs A Makeover
By Ashley Papa Americans are having less sex than they did in the 1990s, a recent study suggests. But when it comes to getting busy in the bedroom, quantity doesn’t always trump quality. In fact, a 2015 study published by the Society for Professional and Social Psychology found that the maximum bonding benefits of sex tend to cap out when couples get down and dirty once per week. Dr. Maria Sophocles, a board-certified gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist, told Fox News that couples who are happy with their sex life shouldn’t worry over how much they’re doing the deed. However, communication about that aspect of the relationship is key for…
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3 Women Talk About Living In A Sexless Marriage
Sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship. By Ashley Papa We’re constantly hearing about the latest and greatest ways improve things between the sheets, not just because sex is fun and healthy, but because it’s important for the strength and closeness of long-term romantic relationships. Right? Sure, that’s the common refrain, but the reality may tell a different story. Research finds that one in five married people in America (20 percent) have not had sex in the last month, 12 percent haven’t done the deed in the last three months and 6 percent haven’t had sex in more than a year. (“Sexless” is defined as having intercourse 10 times or…
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The Science of Sexual Satisfaction
Maegan Boutot first published this on her Medium blog. A happy sex life is an important part of a fulfilling life. What a happy sex life means is subjective, as our sexual desires, expectations and needs differ from one another and change as we grow and age. Some people want to have sex daily, while other people are content never having sex throughout their lifetime. The subjectivity of sexual satisfaction is an important consideration in research and diagnosis of sexual dysfunction. On the World Health Organization (WHO) quality of life survey, the four questions that ask about participant’s sex lives are all subjective (1). Relatedly, although about 4 out of…
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The 12 Stages of Having Married Sex, as Told by a Guy
DAY 1: That wedding night sex where it’s either completely amazing, or you don’t bother and just go to sleep. It’s your wedding night, which means either you’ve been looking forward to this for a really long time, or you’ve already had so much sex and you’re so exhausted from your wedding day, you just like, “LOL, we can do it in the morning.” It’s OK. Lots of married couples do that. But if this is your first time having sex, you’re running on pure adrenaline and curiosity. Also, congratulations on having sex! DAYS 2–10: Honeymoon sex. “Honeymoon” is code for “boning a lot somewhere cool and maybe we rode…
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18 Tweets That Hilariously Capture The Experience Of Married Sex
Some couples have sex almost every night. Others are perfectly content doing it every other month or even less frequently than that. Regardless of which category you fall into, the 18 spot-on tweets below will sound awfully familiar to married folks. 1 There comes a point in every marriage where one of you becomes the IT guy during sex: “Did you try jiggling it? MOVE I’LL DO IT MYSELF!” — Blinky McBlinksalot (@nagunnatelya) May 20, 2015 2 I’m best at sex when I’m a little ragey so for foreplay, we watch a few episodes of House Hunters. — Valerie (@ValeeGrrl) May 20, 2016 3 *has sex with bedroom…
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The Sexist Stigma Against Depressed Men—and How to Fight It
As a woman, I feel comfortable telling people that I live with bipolar disorder and I often experience clinical depression. However, I’ve heard from my male friends that they don’t have the same experience about opening up about being a man and having Depression. In my mind, this is a societal misperception and indicative of sexism. I believe that everyone with mental health issues has the right to feel their feelings in a candid way and speak about them openly. I was inspired to find out more about how men experience Depression. I started with the staff of The Good Men Project for commentary on the subject. Michael Kasdan, attorney…
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7 Reasons You Should Be Jealous Of Married Sex
Recently, I was driving down a crowded New York City street near a large college campus. It was late, and I was in a mad dash to get home because I’m old now and I had kids to get on the bus in the wee hours of the next morning. As I inched down the street, my eyes fell upon young college kids crowding the cafes and bars. I noticed the lithe frames of the girls in tiny tank tops and perfectly straightened hair, and I observed as guys with starched shirts and ironic shorts stood around sipping craft beers. Sitting at a stoplight, I watched as the girls flipped…
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43 Married People Confess Why They Stopped Having Sex With Their Spouse
1. We got married and had kids. “Easiest way to scale back your sex life? Get married. Easiest way to reduce it to twice a year? Have kids.” —SVTRocks 2. My wife decided three years ago sex is too ‘icky.’ “My wife decided three years ago sex is too ‘icky.’ No discussion no easing into it. Just ‘Nope, not anymore.’ Our marriage isn’t going well.” —annoyingone 3. He likes to finger keyboards more than my vagina. “He likes to finger keyboards more than my vagina.” —RadioISMyFriend 4. Simply put, we hate each other and cheat regularly. “Simply put, we hate each other and cheat regularly, but we also have a…
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6 Easy Ways to Spice Up Your (Married) Sex Life
If you’ve been married for more than a few years, chances are you and your mate have fallen into a routine – from who takes out the trash to who picks up the kids from school. And while getting into a groove can be a good thing, when it comes to your sex life, it’s best to aim for variety. Spicing up your sex life can improve your relationship with your partner and result in a host of health benefits. “Sex is an aerobic activity, which means it can boost your heart health,” says Rachel Needle, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and sex therapist based in West Palm Beach, Florida. “One energetic act…
