Marriage Bliss

— A phrase I heard years ago and have shared before has always stuck in my mind, it went something like this, “One foot in the future and one foot in the past, you’re pissing on the present.” I never really gave it much thought at the time but it makes much more sense nowadays. Now I have more to juggle regarding responsibilities and obligations. There’s more to manage and frequently much is out of my control. Learning to let the dice tumble with acceptance is a skill I work on daily. There are three places we can choose to spend our time. We can choose to focus on the…

The majority of dating advice subtly guides us away from true intimacy. With a superficial fixation on looks, games, and gimmicks, such advice sparks insecurity and encourages unkindness toward ourselves and others. But exciting research shows that there’s a wiser and more effective path to love—and it’s not about looks or games. In my new book Deeper Dating: How to Drop The Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy, I point out that one of the most central—and damaging—myths about dating is the belief that immediate physical attraction trumps all in the search for love. In 1985 evolutionary psychologist David Buss conducted an extensive study of the traits people rate as most important in finding a mate, and his finding was…

Many great ideas have been lost because the people who had them could not stand being laughed at. —Unknown There is a solution to everything. We have been created to be problem solvers. If there is a problem, there is always an answer. We can figure anything out. Start believing good things will occur—it is a small and simple shift that works wonders once you set it in place in your mind and habits. Looking for negative things to stop us from accomplishing our desires is based on a lack of mentality. Start thinking more prosperously. Be kind to yourself. Whatever is stopping you from doing what you want is…

Welcome to adulthood, where no one is ever in the same life stage at the same time again. Childhood is the one and only part of life we were all in the same life stage: school. The sense of camaraderie of our school days is not appreciated until we are well into adulthood, realizing how nice it was to not have to navigate friendships with everyone scattered, doing different things in different places. At least back then, we all had a similar foundation, a common ground, from which we could to relate to our peers. Once we are out of high school, though, and in some cases – even sooner…

I unstrapped my four year old, Frankie, from his car seat in the grey mini-van. We were in the parking lot at Noah’s Bagels going for a little father-son breakfast. When I asked what kind of cream cheese F4 wanted on his bagel he responded, unsurprisingly, “T-Rex cheese bagel.” Everything with him is either “T-Rex,” or “T-Rex egg,” which I love. So, as I’ve done about every 10 minutes since he was born, I laughed and said, “Give daddy a smooch.” He obliged by planting a big T-Rex kiss on me and as I closed the door to the mini-van I heard from behind me, “I’ll trade you.” I turned…

It should go without saying that even happy couples fight (and here’s what they fight about!) Still, with 40 to 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, the way you bicker might be more important than you realize. Think about the last argument you had with your partner. What was the root cause? If you pick fights over something you won’t remember in two or three weeks’ time, it could be a secret sign your marriage is headed for divorce. Thankfully, there’s now an easy way to avoid it! Kara Lawler, the blogger for Mothering the Divide, recently shared a bit of marriage advice with TODAY. According to her, one of…

Once upon a time I dated a guy who was aces at the “romantic gestures.” There were flowers for no reason, long walks holding hands, picnics in secluded spots, and amazing home-cooked meals. Jackpot, right? I have always been one for thoughtful behavior myself, so I responded in kind with surprises and gifts and mini-holiday celebrations for two. Believe it or not, when we eventually broke up, this was stated as one of our “issues.” He told me: “You always do so much for me, there is NO WAY I could EVER KEEP UP!” Talk about a first world problem! But I was young and didn’t lose too much sleep…

Work/life balance, what to do when you have a conflict of priorities, and how to take back control by saying “no” to people. [embedded content] — Join The Good Men Project Community. “Here’s the thing about The Good Men Project. We are trying to create big, sweeping, societal changes—–overturn stereotypes, eliminate racism, sexism, homophobia, be a positive force for good for things like education reform and the environment. And we’re also giving individuals the tools they need to make individual change—-with their own relationships, with the way they parent, with their ability to be more conscious, more mindful, and more insightful. For some people, that could get overwhelming. But for…

For your religious and political beliefs Saida Shigapova/shutterstock It’s no secret that tensions are high in our country and around the world, primarily because of differing political opinions and religious practices. (However, political arguments do result in some hilarious quotes and insults.) But what you believe in is your own choice. It’s part of your identity. You can divulge as much or as little about those beliefs as you feel comfortable, but don’t feel like you need to go through all your church’s teachings or your political party’s agenda as justification. For your relationships Syda Productions/shutterstock Don’t let other people take control of your love life. Only you can decide…

During the last few years, I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing, studying, researching and learning from some of the world’s greatest visionaries, entrepreneurs, and titans of industry. When you spend a certain amount of time knee deep in research, you start to notice common trends which transcend niches and industries. In this post, I’ll share seven practices, rituals, routines, and habits of the greats, allowing for deeper fulfillment, a grounded sense of purpose, a zest and enthusiasm for life and so much more. The truth is, you don’t need to wait to do these things. You can get started today, and watch your world expand. 1. Express Gratitude Starting your day with gratitude will allow…