Marriage Bliss

When I first told my husband that we were going to have only quickies for an entire month, he was pretty intrigued. We’ve been married for seven years and have 3-year-old twins, which is not exactly the recipe for hot sex, but the truth is that we actually have a pretty great sex life. And that’s mostly because for the first eight years of our now-12-year-long relationship, sex was kind of a nightmare. For years, I suffered from a condition called vulvodynia, or chronic vulvar pain, which made sex super painful and totally miserable. Eventually, that turned into an even worse disorder called vaginismus, which made sex literally impossible. It…

In July, NFL quarterback Russell Wilson said in an interview that he had not had sex with girlfriend Ciara in the three months they’d been dating. “If you can love somebody without [sex],” Wilson said, “then you can really love somebody.” The interview sparked a new conversation about abstinence: Can quitting sex be good for a relationship even if you’re not virgins? It’s one thing to swear off chocolate pudding if you’ve never had it. It’s a lot harder to try chocolate pudding and then say, “You know what? This is great, but I’m going to keep this out of my life.” Curious if abstinence could still enhance a relationship if you’ve (1) already had sex together and (2)…

You may need to put a little more work into it You can thank declines in hormone levels for the fact that you may not be ready to go at a moment’s notice. If you’re really missing desire, check out ways you can improve your sex life in just one day. “Both men and women deal with hormone changes in their 40s that can cause changes in sexual arousal, desire and general physical comfort during sexual activity,” says Shannon Chavez, PsyD, CST, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in Los Angeles. “Changes in hormones may require an increase in stimulation during sexual activity or increased focus on sensual pleasuring in order…

1. It could lower his risk of prostate cancer. According to a study from Harvard Medical School, men who ejaculated more often reduced their risk of developing prostate cancer by 22 percent. Researchers still don’t know why that is, but hey, if you needed one more reason to hit that tonight, having your guy avoid getting cancer is a pretty solid one. 2. Your chance of getting a cold goes way, way down. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that people who had sex at least twice a week released more antigens like immunoglobulin A, which helps fight off colds and the flu, so just think of how healthy you’d be if you…

Yes, sometimes sex stops after marriage, but studies show that marriage often means that you’re going to have more sex and a higher quality of life. Who knew? Guess what? Married couples do have sex. No–it’s not perfect. Sometimes sex stops after marriage or you’re one of the millions of Americans in sexless marriages. But overall–marriage often means you’re going to have more sex and an overall higher quality of life (including more money) than being single. The myth that every marriage is sexless is completely false and continues to dissuade couples against marriage. Which is totally OK. It’s the relationship that counts. But we mustn’t forget that married couples are just like those in long-term relationships. Couples shouldn’t be persuaded…

It’s an interesting question with answers that may surprise you. What is the average amount of sex married couples are having? The short answer is, it depends on who you ask. How often do married couples have intercourse? There are plenty of different polls out there that lay out different statistics. Here are some of their findings: Newsweek magazine found in its poll that married couples have sex about 68.5 times a year, or a little more than once a week on average. The magazine also found that married couples have sex 6.9 times per year more than those who have never been married. According to a University of Chicago…

Dear Annie: My husband takes antidepressants. He suffers from severe anxiety and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. If he doesn’t take his pills, he’s tough to be around. He becomes depressed. His attitude toward everything is negative. He stays in bed. He sleeps all day. It’s an ugly sight. We met when we were in our 20s. Life was carefree when we fell in love. We were young, and all that mattered was spending time together. Most importantly, our sex life was great. We’re currently in our late 30s. Nowadays, we have “adult” problems — such as jobs, a mortgage and maintaining our health. Those are normal obstacles for any married…