Advice
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Disagreeing Over This One Parenting Topic May Lead to Divorce
We all know you lose plenty of sleep when you first become a parent. Losing sleep can lower attentiveness, stunt reaction time, and shorten your temper, but as it turns out, just the topic of sleep can prove to be a major marital issue. A new study from Penn State has found that disagreement between spouses over their children’s bedtime can lead to major tension, and potentially divorce. Researchers posed questions to 167 mothers and 155 fathers about checking up on their child during the night at one month, three months, six months, nine months, and then 12 months. The study found that mothers with stronger beliefs about regularly tending to…
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3 Ways to Use Emotions to Fight Less
When you and your partner are aware of the roles you take in your marriage and the patterns in your marital conflicts, you get new resources and tools that can help you deal with your issues. If you aren’t aware of your patterns, you risk getting stuck in conflicts and fights that look identical and seem to repeat themselves over and over again while you just can’t find the solutions. Such patterns tend to repeat themselves when couples can’t find their way out of negative emotions and interactions. The fights then become emotional quicksand and you feel like you are sinking deeper and deeper as you go, which can lead…
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What Happens With Your Emotions During Your Interactions with Your Spouse
Happily married couples share goals, needs and are able to communicate not just about the minutia of their daily lives, but also about their emotions. When partners struggle to connect on an emotional level, it typically shows up in their conflicts, too. Your spouse may be getting upset that you are ignoring social events at his or her job, but the real reason why your spouse gets upset may have nothing to do with the events themselves. It is very likely that the real issue is about relying and counting on the partner and being a priority for the spouse. The partners may be committed to their marriage, but if…
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Your Past and Its Influence on Your Marriage
Both you and your spouse have your own relationship histories that include not just your previous romantic partner, but also your parents, siblings, relatives, friends, coworkers and mentors. All of these relationships and histories shape your behavior today. They also have a large impact on the roles you assume in your marriage. Your history of your close relationships with others has a lot to do with how your fight, how you act when you are happy and how you behave during intimate moments. The way your parents raised you plays an important role in who you are today, but the emotional climate that prevailed when you were growing up was…
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What Married Couples Need to Know About Withdrawing
During the times of stress and fights in a marriage, some spouses use withdrawing as a way to cope with their stress. They move away from a conflict to try and get away from what is causing them to feel emotions that they are not comfortable with. How withdrawing works If you or your spouse use withdrawing as a coping mechanism, it means that your approach to stress is to be independent and self-reliant. It may include both physical and emotional distance. For example, you or your spouse may still choose to engage in a conversation about the issues in your relationship, but one of you may choose to…
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Your Past and Its Influence on Your Marriage
Both you and your spouse have your own relationship histories that include not just your previous romantic partner, but also your parents, siblings, relatives, friends, coworkers and mentors. All of these relationships and histories shape your behavior today. They also have a large impact on the roles you assume in your marriage. Your history of your close relationships with others has a lot to do with how your fight, how you act when you are happy and how you behave during intimate moments. The way your parents raised you plays an important role in who you are today, but the emotional climate that prevailed when you were growing up was…
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What Married Couples Need To Know About Anger
When losing your temper and dealing with one argument after another have become part of your day to day married life, anger control issues are probably to blame. It happens more often than you think. And when couples don’t know how to react or don’t see any solution to cope with disappointments and obstacles, then anger will only be increasing. What Causes Anger Although people don’t always see anger as a bad emotion, when it takes hold of a couple’s life it can only cause damage. Its destructive ends come from harmful sources. Also, couples can express anger in different ways. However, its common source of negative energy stays…
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Top 10 Tips For Resolving Conflict in Marriage
Don’t push the buttons Using a different tone of voice or rolling your eyes are common behaviors that can push buttons, particularly in your spouse. Whether done intentionally or not, the effect remains the same, and someone is going to get annoyed. Sometimes these acts are done purposefully, but often they occur without intention. There may be words or actions you say and do that upset your partner and this is where both of you need to sit down and talk about what grinds your gears. Offer reasons as to why you get offended and be understanding and compassionate to your partner when listening to their concerns. Watch for…
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Top 5 Exercises To Stay in Shape (That You Can Do with Your Significant Other)
Looking good and feeling good is an important part of life today for both men and women and you can accomplish that by working out. Having a good working out regime is a small portion of workout success. Other factors are having the time to work out and having an accountability partner and that’s something your spouse can help you with. Not only is working out great for your physique but it is also good for your muscular and skeletal health. Five of the best exercises to have fun with your significant other and to get great results are below: Stretching This may not be the traditional workout you would…
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Top 5 Differences Between Men and Women
So, you found and married “The One.” That’s great! Now, how do you keep “The One?” Any successful relationship, whether it is with your co-workers, friends, family or spouse, requires good communication. Good communication occurs when both parties are able to express themselves openly and that the other person actually understands what is being communicated. One thing to remember in any conversation is that just because you “think” that you were able to express yourself clearly, it does not necessarily mean that the other person accurately understood what you were trying to say. In a marriage or long-term relationship, communication gets even “muddier” and more complicated because of the emotions…
