‘It’s hopeless, my entire marriage is a mess, it’s utterly pointless’. Perhaps you are feeling this right now as you live day in day out in what is slowly becoming a loveless marriage. I hear this almost every week from women in all walks of life; working women, business women, stay at home mums, women living in the country, women living in busy cities – it’s across the board, women suffering in marriages that just feel ‘hopeless’. Take a step back, let’s look at the aerial picture, it’s not the entire marriage that is hopeless, it isn’t every moment that isn’t working, it’s a part that perhaps you just can’t…

In February 1840, England’s 21-year-old Queen Victoria wed Prince Albert in a silk satin dress and white lace veil. The happy couple documented their big day with a wedding portrait, as many are wont to do. However, it being the mid-19th century and all, when photography was still in infancy, the royal family instead sat for an oil painting. Fourteen years later, technology had advanced and photography was en vogue. So Victoria and Albert pulled a move to which any devoted Instagrammer can relate: They dressed up in their wedding garb to take the posed, nuptials-themed studio portrait they never had. We only hope they uttered “studio portraits or it didn’t…

Congratulations: You failed PongMoji/ShutterstockCall it what it is: You messed up! Did you crash your car into a light pole? Or was it only that you tucked your skirt into your underpants and walked through the office before realizing it? As long as you’re okay physically, dust off and get right back up. (Resilience is key.) As skiers say, if you’re not falling, you’re not getting better. Rule one of bouncing back from failure: Admit it, own it. Do a post-mortem Stanislaw-Mikulski/ShutterstockPost-mortem translates to “after death” and doctors use it to refer to the review done following a patient death to spot any errors. You’re still breathing, but you’ll have trouble…

When to start eating: Emma Kapotes/Rd.com, iStock/Naddiya If you’re seated at a table with eight or fewer guests, wait until everyone is served and for the hostess to begin eating before you dig in. At a long banquet table, it’s OK to start when several people are seated and served. These are little etiquette rules to follow when you’re a guest in someone’s house. What to keep off the table: Emma Kapotes/Rd.com, iStock/Naddiya All items not having to do with food (and decoration) should remain off the table: keys, clutch bags, sunglasses, and especially phones. When to text: Emma Kapotes/Rd.com, iStock/Naddiya “If you’re in a situation where you’d excuse yourself to go…

What is happiness? Generally, when people say they are happy, they mean they are satisfied with their life and are experiencing an overall feeling of pleasant emotions. However, in my opinion, happiness goes far beyond that surface level of happiness. I think happiness is independent of what is happening in your life. Real happiness is this deep sense of well-being, peace, and aliveness that is with you most of the time. Yet, a nine-year Dutch study into the elderly found that those who were happy, optimistic, or generally satisfied with life had around 50% less risk of dying over the period of the study that those were unhappy or pessimistic. Sadly,…

Some athletes seem to bounce back easily, while others learn resiliency as they mature. How can you water that resiliency seed in your child? June 26, 2017 by CoachUp Nation Leave a Comment By Janis Meredith How do you help your child face the same pitcher who struck him out three times already in the game? What will help your young football player keep running with the ball even after he’s fumbled twice in the first quarter? How can you help your tennis player keep playing after she lost the first set at love? Resiliency is not necessarily something you can teach your kids. It’s not an athletic skill that can…

More and more Americans, especially in California, New York, Chicago and other sophisticated areas, are seeing a psychotherapist. In fact, as many as 38% of Americans are seeing or have seen a therapist. Let’s talk about psychotherapists: Psychologists, marriage and family therapists, licensed social workers in private practice and psychiatrists, to name a few. (Psychiatrists are actually the people in this group least likely to practice psychotherapy, since they mostly prescribe drugs.) Most psychotherapists are consummate professionals, well-trained and educated. But not all of them are good. Some of them are criminals, some are drug addicts, and some have sex with their patients. Some of them are just plain incompetent.…

When Grant Tribbett proposed to his girlfriend Cassandra Reschar, he didn’t just make a commitment to her. He made one to her daughter too. Grant proposed twice that day — once to his girlfriend and again to her five-year-old daughter. On May 27, Grant took Cassandra, a single mom, and her five-year-old daughter Adrianna to Cracker Barrel for breakfast followed by an outing to Ritchey Woods Nature Preserve in Fishers, Indiana. The three of them walked together a mile into the woods until they reached a wooden bridge. That’s where Grant got down on one knee and asked Cassandra to marry him ― and made a very special promise to…

Ah, women. I, for the most part of my life had women pegged completely wrong. Absolutely and wholeheartedly. As a young boy, I didn’t have much to do with girls because it was the natural thing to do; run with your own species. Yet looking back I often wonder if I had allowed myself to play with the girl’s things might have been a lot different. I was a sensitive young boy and I still am. Rough and tumble doesn’t appeal to me like a nice chat over coffee does. That has always been the case for me. I’ve recently found out through learning about myself that I get along…