Relationship Goals
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Mistrust and Jealousy: What Do You Do If You’re Wrongly Accused?
You love your partner, and you’ve done nothing to deserve mistrust, but you constantly face jealousy and accusations. Both of you are frustrated and upset, and you don’t know how to break the cycle. If you respond defensively, it only adds fuel to the accusations, but if you say nothing, it’s interpreted as guilt. Here are some ideas on how to break the cycle. Take a closer look through your partner’s eyes When your partner starts accusing you, don’t get triggered into reacting. Take a step back and listen to what is being said without being defensive. Try to understand what it was about your behavior that could have…
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What to Do When Your Husband Isn’t Your Best Friend
Everywhere I look recently I see marriage advice telling me that I need to be friends with my husband for the marriage to work. My husband isn’t my best friend so I panicked and dived into the research. In my parents, time advice came from a religious pre-matrimonial counseling. Later on, when a marriage was getting shaky it would come from a marriage guidance counselor. Most of the husbands at the time seemed to have been against it in principle. Anyway, neither of those worked for my parents because they divorced when I was a teenager. There is advice everywhere. Now there are books and counselors and readily accessible advice.…
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11 Relationship Goals For Couples
Relationship goals are different for every couple. For instance, just look at our favorite pieces of fiction and you can see how wildly different the goals are for certain couples. For instance, in Twilight, Bella just wants to settle down with her vampire lover. But in Game of Thrones, Queen Cersei wants to take over the kingdom and just needs a man to tag along. Also, in House of Cards, Frank and Claire are hell bent on taking over the world. So don’t get down about your relationship. Regardless of where you stand, you can come up with some reasonable goals and then go about working towards achieving them with…
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Science Reveals 12 Characteristics of the Happiest Couples
This article was originally posted by Malenia Curtin on inc.com. Romantic relationships are challenging, rewarding, confusing, and exhilarating–sometimes all at the same time. Should you take things slowly at the beginning or dive right in? Can things stay hot in the bedroom even after years of being together? What happens when one of you wants to use a holiday bonus to invest in Bitcoin and the other wants to go on a vacation? The answers aren’t always clear, but when it comes to marital satisfaction, science has some interesting things to offer. According to research, the happiest couples are those who: 1. Don’t fight over text What seems obvious…
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5 Ways to Use Elements of Surprise to Improve Your Relationship with Your Spouse
Time wears everything out. This is a universal law that has and continues to apply to just about anything in life. This doesn’t mean that some things can’t last. Relationships are one of the few things that can and should withstand the test of time. Intimate relationships are the most demanding. However, you can use the element of surprise to reinvigorate your relationship and meet those demands. The following are 5 great ways to improve a relationship with your spouse. Discover a New You People often feel trapped in their relationships because they are dealing with the same old issues every day. This doesn’t necessarily mean anything negative, but even…
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The Rules All Couples Should Follow to Fight Fair
Disagreement between couples is inevitable. Even the strongest marriages run into conflict. But what defines marriages that survive conflict is how the couple manages to settle their dispute. These couples have rules for fighting fair, and most of them have laid down these ground rules with each other so that when they disagree, they can constructively reach a resolution. Identify the real issue When couples disagree, the argument often becomes a vessel for them to bring up issues from the past and rake them over again and again. It is important that the couple can define what the disagreement is about and confine themselves to the matter at hand…
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How to Handle a Husband Who Travels for Work Frequently
Did everyone warn you about not marrying a guy who travels for work? Is your husband always away from home? This means you are holding the fort, sleeping alone and running the show. Your husband’s business obligations that keep him away from home and cause strain on your relationship. This affects you both in different ways. While it might be nice to able to watch exactly what you want to on TV, it also means that you have to manage everything on your own. For women with children, this means that you have no help with anything at all. You have to manage the children all on your own. When…
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Are you Letting your Expectations Ruin Your Relationship?
You may not even realize you have certain expectations until you find you keep finding you’re disappointed. Everyone has expectations but you may be expecting too much from your partner, and this can cause serious problems in a relationship. There are aspects of a relationship that are non-negotiable but when it comes to your expectations, you may find they need some adjustment, or they can cause resentment, anger and bitter disappointment. Expectations trap you in the past You may have grown up in a home where your father handled all the finances. You unconsciously expect your husband to do the same and you become very frustrated with him when…
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What Is the Secret to A Lasting Relationship?
There is this concept called fate. It is quite an elusive concept, there is no solid evidence that it even exists, and yet it is a concept which has been perpetuated by movies, books, plays, music, and even society. What would you say if you were asked to define fate? Would you say something along the lines of how if something were meant to happen then it would happen? But, who determines what meant means? Who decides when something is meant to happen? A deity? The universe? If you subscribe to this way of thinking, then it is safe to say that you believe that there is some plan for…
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6 Signs You Married the Best Husband Ever
It was amazing to me that so many people had advice on how to deal with my first year of marriage. Plenty of advice flew in from all directions, and soon I was completely befuddled as to what I was supposed to do as everyone said we would fight, and that marriage was not like in the fairy tales. It is highly unlikely that two people would go into a marriage believing that they are Prince Charming and Snow White but with love, compassion, and care for each other, the first years of marriage need not be a battleground. If you are feeling a little low, here are a few…
