Divorce
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Here’s Why the Little Things Matter
Don’t let the daily stress of life keep you from showing your spouse some affection. By Evie Shafner When we are in the romantic beginnings of a relationship when we are enchanted with our partner when we are hoping and praying they will become our person in the world — so much of our focus is on letting our partner know they are the ongoing object of our affection. We look at them with love in our eyes, heap words of love and appreciation, and send loving texts — you know that phase. But once we are secure in our relationship, the commitment solidified, and we start behaving more like “normal” people. We are grabbed by all…
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My Ex-Wife now Smiles When I say Hello
When divorcing parents are at odds with each other, the hardest thing is getting them to listen to one another. by David Asbery Leave a Comment . Having a child with a man that you are no longer with can be a lifelong struggle for some women. I know. After years of fighting with my ex-wife, I can honestly say that I am glad that we are finally in a space where we can smile and say hello to each other. When I look back at the fighting and arguing that followed after our separation, I often wonder if it made a difference in where we are now, or if it…
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How can I make my 10 Yr Anniversary EPIC?
Question: Allana, my wife and I are about to celebrate our ten-year anniversary. Do you have any suggestions to make this anniversary EPIC? Answer: OMG this is one of my favorite questions to answer! First, I am so touched that you care! That you’ve reached out to ask my advice! You want to put the time, energy and money into creating an epic experience to celebrate your relationship! You rock! Your wife is so lucky!? [embedded content] I’m sure you’ve heard of love languages and after 10 years I’m pretty clear you understand what makes her the happiest… from touch to words to experiences to gifts… Yes? Shortly after my…
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What to Do When Your Partner Cheats
A 12-step guide to surviving infidelity. ___ When tears come down Like falling rain You’ll toss around And call my name You’ll walk the floor The way I do Your cheatin’ heart will tell on you… Your Cheatin’ Heart—Hank Williams ___ So you’ve caught your partner cheating, or he or she has come forward and confessed. Now what? Is the relationship over? Infidelity can kill a relationship or serve as a wake-up call. The answer to this question depends on whether you want it to be over or not. For some, infidelity—sexual or emotional—is a deal-breaker. Trust is shattered, healing is impossible, and walking away is the only choice. For others, it’s…
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How to Overcome Divorce Unfairness like a Champ
Let’s talk about one of the most common obstacles that stop us from moving on after divorce. Fairness. Unfairness. The feeling like we’ve been screwed over during divorce. You know exactly what I’m talking about. Do any of the following sound like things you have said or thought? “It’s not fair that my ex has already moved on and I’m stuck here with nothing.” “It’s not fair that they’re out having a great time while I’m here heartbroken.” “It’s not fair that my adult children are going to be in my ex’s wedding, and they don’t understand what I’m going through. “It’s not fair that I will have to work…
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How to Tell That She’s About to Leave You and What You Can Do About It?
There is a long-held belief that men hold all the power in the relationship. The idea is that the man decides when and how the relationship begins and that he too calls the shots when it’s about to end. Well into the 21st century, this is most certainly not true. It is completely possible that she will be the one who decides to leave this time. This is how you know it’s about to happen and what you can try to do to prevent it. You will no longer be the first person she talks to When in a happy relationship, people will always want to share their good news…
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10 Things Married Men Must Avoid (That Can Destroy Even the Best of Marriages)
Searching for an old fling on Facebook Did you have a disagreement with your spouse that led you to look for your old girlfriend on social media, just to see how she is doing? Stop! Loving marriages can be destroyed because one spouse thought it would be harmless to find that old friend or lover. Technology brings a lot of convenience to life, but it also has its disadvantages. Being able not to deal with your problems because you can easily find someone using the Internet is not an advantage. Just like many other short-term solutions in life, including alcohol and fast food, it will not make you happy in…
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My Wife’s Stopped Trying So I’m Going To Stop Being a Good Boy…
Question: Coach Allana, is it wrong for me to start fantasizing about other women if my wife has stopped trying? A coworker at work has started coming on a little strong. While I have been a very good boy, I’m tired of putting up resistance if my wife doesn’t give a damn. Am I wrong to just go for it? Answer: I certainly understand that you must be frustrated because your wife has stopped trying and appears to not give a damn. It must make you feel rejected, hurt, and not desired or appreciated, yes? I wonder how long this has been going on… months? Years? [embedded content] It makes…
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Inevitable life Problems that Could Stress Any Marriage
Marriage has a share of its own challenges and joys. Some challenges are easy to solve while others can be impossible to solve. The latter are like visitors who come uninvited and refuse to leave. These challenges are with you when you fall asleep and when you wake up. Even if you manage to solve them eventually, you will have endured a lot of pain along the way. This is when being with your spouse until death do you part becomes so difficult to fulfill. That’s when the true feelings and intentions of your spouse can be exposed. If your marriage hasn’t been through major trials, be grateful as there…
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Four Signs to Look for to Know Your Marriage is Getting Unstable
Marriage is a unique institution with numerous challenges and lessons. If you enter marriage thinking that you will be celebrating from January to December, you will be in for a rude shock. As with other relationships, marriage is prone to disagreements and conflicts. There will be good and bad times in your relationship. If you seem to deal with endless conflicts, it may be a sign that you are no longer compatible marriage partners. And if you still love each other, it may be time to seek the intervention of a marriage counselor or educator. To know that your relationship is really bad, look for the following signs. Lack of…
