We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down. ―Kurt Vonnegut Jr. Creativity is internal Creativity begins within the person. The creative juices flow out into the material or physical world. The material world is not what creates the creator. The creator’s mind makes the physical. You are the creator. No need to criticize—instead, begin to understand others and phenomena. By focusing on the inner, you will not need to engage in random patterns in your life. We do not know how much we are capable of if we do not put forth the effort. It is the mind at work. If we believe we…

—  Grief never ends, but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith. Grief is the price of love. -Unknown Often, we learn to love without one day expecting that it may change. We may learn to love unconditionally, without reason, intention, or restitution. We may love like we’ve never been and won’t ever be hurt, while in fact, this may be love in its purest, most open, and trusting form. As much as we love, inevitably, we will all one day find that love hurts and that grief is the price we pay for having had…

I am amazed at how many stories I read online, stories told by friends and people I meet, and documentaries I watch about individuals in love relationships that make them miserable and depressed and in a constant state of drama in their life. I think it is sad and I don’t understand it. Love is supposed to bring you up and make your life better, not worse. Here are six scary signs that tell you that you are in the wrong relationship- and if you see many of these you need to get the heck out and find someone else. #1 — Abuse. I don’t care if you are a…

After watching James Baldwin‘s words in honest and truthful language living and breathing in the documentary “I Am Not Your Negro,” I could not help but look at the state of being and becoming privileged. Being privileged is a state of mind, a state of how we view our personal worlds. In the land of the free, by the mere fact that we live in America, we are privileged. Even our poor live a lifestyle of having cars and technical devices such as cell phones, tablets, flat screen televisions and internet access. We have high expectations of a quality lifestyle and we believe in our right of having our own…

[embedded content] In the world of dating apps, there’s playing the long game, and then there’s straight-up procrastinating.  One pair of college students have found fame after dilly-dallying for three long years on Tinder, messaging back and forth without ever actually meeting up. But, at long last, they’ve met in person. Live on TV.  Michelle and Josh achieved viral fame earlier this month, after Josh tweeted screen shots of their three-year long running gag of late replies to each other. Tinder caught wind of the pair’s procrastination and even offered to pay for the pair to go on a date.  The pair have FINALLY met for the first time on…

Think about these brands and consider what they have in common: Facebook, Drake, Beyonce, Pinterest, Quora, Stephen Curry, Instagram, Snapchat, Dropbox, Jennifer Lawrence, and Airbnb. Yes, they’re relevant. And yes, they’re incredibly influential. But more importantly, they’re either Millennials or are founded by one. Often derided for being lazy, unable to focus, entitled, or self-absorbed, we Millennials inch closer and closer to taking over the economy, culture, technology, and much of the conversation about life and everything it encapsulates. But do we have what it takes to lead the world and make a positive difference? Millennials have surpassed baby boomers—people born between 1946 and 1964—as the largest generational demographic in the…

By Kyle Benson One of our deepest needs as humans is to feel understood, and true understanding is not possible without empathy. As a psychologist, Carl Rogers put it, “When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good!” Think back to a time when you were listened to and really felt heard. How did it feel to be seen as you were? The last letter in Dr. Gottman’s ATTUNE model is E and it stands for Empathy. Brené Brown describes empathy beautifully in this brief animated video. [embedded content] Empathy is the willingness…

People who know me well, know I had one helluva upbringing and early life. To some, the horrors of adoption, prison, drug addiction, and divorce are unfathomable. To me, they were just a part of growing up and doing this thing we call life. Those who know me and are aware of my current success always ask me, “If you had to do it all over again, what would you do differently?” I think the question they really want to ask is, “Was all that pain and suffering worth the success you have today?” Now, of course, the answer is YES. But as I was enduring the pain and suffering,…

[embedded content] There are some things that you just don’t say on first dates. Or, ever, actually.  One chap appearing on an episode of Channel 4’s reality dating show First Dates has provided us with a lesson in what not to say on a date. After telling a highly underwhelming story about the origins of the Negroni cocktail, he made ignorant remarks relating to his date’s race and religion.  When he asked his date if he was feeling nervous, he steered the conversation in a very coarse direction.  “How close were you to shitting your pants do you reckon?” he asked his date. Cue: silence.  Yikes. 

To land a job Daxiao Productions/Shutterstock You’ve already pinpointed the one thing employers want to see on your resume and have memorized the one thing never to say in a job interview, but your stomach is still churning. Instead of pretending to be poised in the waiting room, run through a couple of power poses—such as raising your arms in a V or standing with your hands on your hips—in the bathroom or elevator. Research from social psychologist Amy Cuddy has shown that holding these postures for just two minutes can lower stress and increase feelings of power. Or try one of these tricks for boosting self-confidence. To connect with…