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How to Tell That She’s About to Leave You and What You Can Do About It?
There is a long-held belief that men hold all the power in the relationship. The idea is that the man decides when and how the relationship begins and that he too calls the shots when it’s about to end. Well into the 21st century, this is most certainly not true. It is completely possible that she will be the one who decides to leave this time. This is how you know it’s about to happen and what you can try to do to prevent it. You will no longer be the first person she talks to When in a happy relationship, people will always want to share their good news…
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The Hidden Problem With Domestic Violence
So, you arrive at your neighbor’s house with your wife, ready for a relaxing evening of good food, wine and light conversation. Your neighbor gets the ball rolling and before you know it, you guys are analyzing the weekend’s game. As you sit down for dinner, his wife pulls out the big guns and talks about the domestic violence that one of her colleagues was experiencing… If only people were so open about speaking about domestic violence, but the truth of the matter is that it is a topic that is well left alone. It is a topic that is reserved for speculation and gossip. The problem is that it…
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The New Face of Infidelity (Pornography)
Infidelity used to be about having sex with someone other than your marriage partner. In the 21st century, those clear lines seem to have blurred. If you have a flirtation online and there’s no sex, should it really be considered as cheating? The advent of the internet has changed the face of infidelity, including the type of people involved and the actions that are considered to be unfaithful. Marriages are more vulnerable than ever in these tough economic times when both partners may work hard to make ends meet, leaving less time to nurture the relationship. In movies, affairs tend to be glamorized, and the internet is a whole new…
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Mistrust and Jealousy: What Do You Do If You’re Wrongly Accused?
You love your partner, and you’ve done nothing to deserve mistrust, but you constantly face jealousy and accusations. Both of you are frustrated and upset, and you don’t know how to break the cycle. If you respond defensively, it only adds fuel to the accusations, but if you say nothing, it’s interpreted as guilt. Here are some ideas on how to break the cycle. Take a closer look through your partner’s eyes When your partner starts accusing you, don’t get triggered into reacting. Take a step back and listen to what is being said without being defensive. Try to understand what it was about your behavior that could have…
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Science Findings On Why Some Married Couples Look Alike
This article was originally posted by Arti Patel on globalnews.ca No, it’s not just in your head — there could be a scientific reason why some couples look alike. According to a recent report from the Boston University School of Public Health and the University of California, it could have something to do with genetics. “Until recently, most people picked a spouse from within their local community, and that person often had the same ancestry. Over many generations, this affinity for similar mates has created a genetic structure in the population which has the potential to bias the results of genetic studies.” researchers said in a statement. The report,…
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Become Closer to Your Spouse by Doing These 10 Awkward Things
These tips are likely to make you rather uncomfortable but it’s a good kind of uncomfortable because it’s these moments that help to create intimacy. They help you to get know one another in a deeper way and bring you closer. Ask personal questions Psychologist, Arthur Aron, used a technique in his laboratory to get two people to fall in love. It involved answering increasingly personal questions with the idea being that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. If you both agree to ask personal questions, you won’t have to feel that you’re being too nosy. Go and sit in a café, drink some coffee and ask those hard questions like “When…
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How to Get into the Mood When You Don’t Feel Like It
So, here’s a dirty little secret that not too many people are talking about. Sex is actually what helps a couple stay together. The first research on the functions of orgasm came out in the 30s. More recently the French Obstetrician Micheal Odent maintains, like many Tantra texts, that an orgasm causes a chemical reaction in the body, releasing oxytocin. This chemical is responsible for mother-child bonding during birth and breastfeeding. Biologically it ensures the survival of the species, as mothers who bond well with their children look after them better and they have a much higher chance of surviving. And guess what, so do bonded couples. Even just hugging…
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What to Do When Your Husband Isn’t Your Best Friend
Everywhere I look recently I see marriage advice telling me that I need to be friends with my husband for the marriage to work. My husband isn’t my best friend so I panicked and dived into the research. In my parents, time advice came from a religious pre-matrimonial counseling. Later on, when a marriage was getting shaky it would come from a marriage guidance counselor. Most of the husbands at the time seemed to have been against it in principle. Anyway, neither of those worked for my parents because they divorced when I was a teenager. There is advice everywhere. Now there are books and counselors and readily accessible advice.…
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11 Relationship Goals For Couples
Relationship goals are different for every couple. For instance, just look at our favorite pieces of fiction and you can see how wildly different the goals are for certain couples. For instance, in Twilight, Bella just wants to settle down with her vampire lover. But in Game of Thrones, Queen Cersei wants to take over the kingdom and just needs a man to tag along. Also, in House of Cards, Frank and Claire are hell bent on taking over the world. So don’t get down about your relationship. Regardless of where you stand, you can come up with some reasonable goals and then go about working towards achieving them with…
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5 Marriage Mistakes That Can Lead To Divorce
There are a few things that a spouse can do that are deal breakers. Relationship expert, Kim Olver, from The Relationship Center has put together 5 things that every couple needs to avoid in order to stay together. With over 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. ending in divroce, it’s important to take a look at the marriage mistakes that can lead to divorce. While researching this subject for my book, Secrets of Happy Couples, I asked happy couples what their “non-negotiables” in marriage are. One hundred couples responded about the dealbreakers in their marriages. Here is what I learned: 1. Cheating. Many respondents said that if their partner cheated on them,…
