Advice
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Marriage Advice for Newlyweds That Every Couple Should Read
A good marriage doesn’t just happen. Experts, real-life newlyweds, and seasoned married couples share 10 surprising secrets to create a loving, lifelong bond. Live in a ‘Couple Bubble’ “A Couple Bubble is your relationship’s safety and security system,” advises Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, a couple therapist known for his pioneering work in helping partners form happy, secure, and long-lasting relationships. Think of it as a cocoon—created by a couple’s values and promises to each other—that protects the relationship from outside forces. The Couple Bubble is guided by affirmations such as “Our relationship is more important than my need to be right,” and “You’ll be the first to hear about important…
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12 Tiny Ways to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved
Compliment Them Tell them that you think he looks hot, smells yummy, or whatever the case may be. And do so in the moment. Rave about his old T-shirt after he puts it on Saturday morning. As you hug, tell them that you think they smells sexy. Remark that their rear looks good in that pair of jeans they’re wearing around the house Sunday afternoon. “You serve as your beloved’s best mirror,” says Jim Walkup, Doctorate of Ministry, a licensed marriage counselor who practices in New York City and White Plains, New York. “Where else will they find a sense of someone appreciating their essence and lifting it up?” Plus, by verbalizing…
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Warning: If Your Partner Is Asking You to Do These 10 Things, There’s a BIG Problem
Demand you make a major life change Making comments about the haircut they prefer on you or wishing you’d spend less on comic book memorabilia is one thing, but if your partner is asking you to change major things—your career, your religion, your studies, or other things you consider core parts of your personality—that’s a serious red flag, says Fran Walfish, PhD, Beverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist, author of The Self-Aware Parent, and co-star of Sex Box on WE tv. “An important part of being in a successful relationship is to give up trying to control other people, especially your spouse or partner,” she says. Instead of trying to…
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15 Signs Your Relationship Is Solid as a Rock
It sounds like a no-brainer, but happy couples really, really like each other. “There should be an awareness that this is your best friend, the person you like, love, and with whom you want to share your life,” says Antonia Hall, MA, a psychologist, relationship expert, and author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life. “In a good, solid relationship both people encourage and bring out the best in each other.” You respect each other Without mutual respect, you can’t have trust, honesty, friendship, or intimacy. “Mutual respect is one of the core relationship partner needs, and it’s something that is often looked over in the dating process,” says…
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This Is What The Wedding Night Is Actually Like, According To Couples
For many newlyweds, the wedding night isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. The expectation is a glamorous evening full of endless champagne and awesome sex (hey, it’s possible!). The reality usually involves scarfing down some fast food and then passing out soon after. We asked HuffPost readers how they actually spent their first night as a married couple. See what they had to say below: 1. “I laid on the floor of the living room with my wife and two of my bridesmaids eating Taco Bell tortilla chips before finally going to bed, getting up to puke from having so much to drink at the reception, coming back to bed and…
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There’s Only One Sign A Couple Should Go To Therapy
In a relationship? If the answer is “yes,” it’s time to consider couples therapy. Counseling may seem like a waste of effort when things are going smoothly, but therapists around the country say it’s always a good time to stop in; you don’t need a huge problem to be the catalyst. (A strong case can even be made for going to a marriage therapist on your own, believe it or not.) Below, therapists share six reasons why therapy works wonders for even the healthiest, happy couples. Therapy keeps you healthier as a couple, physically and mentally. “Maintenance of a happy, deeply connected relationship is just as important for your health as a…
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7 Normal Fights Even Happy Couples Have
My wife and I hate to fight, mainly because it cuts into our TV watching. Still, a whole cottage industry is encouraging us to pause ‘The Walking Dead’ to engage in open warfare, insisting that hashing stuff out is the foundation of a healthy marriage. Having enjoyed wedded bliss for 20 years myself, I’ve learned these things are actually worth the battle. Fight about: sex My wife loves hugs. If it were up to her, all we would do is hug. If she could have figured a way to have had a baby via hugs, that’s how our daughter would have been conceived. I don’t like hugs. It’s this close…
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5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage
When I got married, I was amazed at the instant, overwhelming sense of responsibility I felt to love and care for my husband. Suddenly, a huge part of someone else’s well-being and happiness was largely affected by my choices and actions. Women, we need to be careful about how we are caring for our husbands and marriages. Don’t let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life. Here are just a few ways you might be unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage (as a caveat, please understand that although this article is directed toward women, it applies to men as well):…
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How to Build Intimacy in a Marriage in 4 Steps
Building intimacy in marriage is easier said than done, especially when you have been married for some time. More often than not, couples are left alone to face their fears of turning into ‘old, boring married people’ and that happens to the best of us. In these times, you’re not just out of touch with emotional and sexual support, but also, when your life is based around no ambitions, it can have serious effects on your psychological well being. As someone who is married, you need to realize that building intimacy in marriage is the foundation of a happy and fulfilling life. Little do people know that even the…
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Your Husband Has 5 Critical Needs. Are You Meeting Them?
The key to a successful marriage is unselfishness. If you can put your spouse’s needs above your own, you are on the right track. Having the desire to fulfill your husband’s needs is in no way submitting yourself to an inferior role as a wife. If you truly love your spouse, then you want to make him happy, and these five things generally make men happy – simple as that. Every man’s needs are different; however, according to Willard F. Harley Jr., most men have the same basic needs. While each person is unique, these needs are what most men pick on average. Recreational companionship My husband and I are…
