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Here Are 59 Household Hacks That Will Make Your Spouse Believe You’re A Genius
I used to do this when I worked at a fast food joint in high school. Totally works! I’ve tried this one. I love it. This will save me 5 bucks for buying something that does the exact same thing from Home Depot. I’m so gonna try this one. This is an awesome idea. Ours are all held together with rubber bands. I used a rolled up sheet for my son, but this is brilliant! My wife did this but with kids snacks. I think this is awesome as well. So gonna try this one. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve…
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How To Listen Without Getting Defensive
Understanding your partner requires the capacity to listen. Really listen. Couples are advised to hear each other’s complaints without feeling attacked, and as great as this sounds, it’s often unrealistic. When something you said (or didn’t say) hurts your partner’s feelings, there’s a strong impulse to interrupt with, “That wasn’t my intention. You’re misunderstanding me,” even before your partner is done talking. Unfortunately, when the listener reacts to what the speaker is saying before the speaker gets the chance to fully explain themselves, both partners are left feeling misunderstood. This is why the N in Dr. Gottman’s ATTUNE model stands for Non-defensive listening. The defensive reaction For most of…
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America, Take A Good, Hard Look At What You’re Doing To Working Mothers
Americans may have the edge on Olympic medals, fast food chains and Broadway musicals, but we’re severely lacking in the parental leave department. In Sweden, women are given a full year off to heal properly and bond with their child(ren). If they have more than one child, they are given that same amount of time per child. In the United States, we’re lucky if we get a few days, a week, a month, or 90 days before the threat of not returning means the loss of employment, housing, stability, health insurance, and additional burdens. If you work for yourself or own a small business, the luxury of a few days…
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These Jobs Have the Highest Rates of Divorce for People Under 30
In the United States, divorce rates are pretty staggering, although they aren’t the highest in the world. (You can call the Maldives international divorce champions). All the couple’s therapy in America can’t atone for a near 50% divorce rate, but there’s certainly one thing that paints a clearer picture of why some couples split: their jobs. From the career guidance site Zippia, comes a data set portraying divorce rates according to job and industry for people under 30. Using Public Use Microsample Data from the US Census Bureau, the data indicates which industries are most prone to collapsing a marriage, and it isn’t particularly surprising to see military trades standing atop the mountain of…
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7 Things That Happy Couples Do When They Fight
Fair fighting rule: A positive environment minimizes a destructive fight Create the right environment so that when a conflict does occur, it is not overwhelming. To do this, partners need to respond regularly to one another in a positive fashion. We all yearn to love and be loved, to be seen, heard, and known—to matter. These yearnings are calls for attention: those everyday moments when we share a thought, an observation, an “I love you,” and we hope or expect our partner will respond with a laugh, a hug, or an acknowledgment. Couples whose interactions are brimming with these sort of positive exchanges create an atmosphere over time that tips the…
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10 Wise Quotes You Can Use to Stop an Argument In Its Tracks
“Let the angry word be answered only with a kiss.” —Thomas Hill, writer “Say what you mean, but don’t say it mean.” —Andrea Wachter, marriage counselor “If you can’t say something nice, say it in French.” —Anonymous “Be calm in arguing for fierceness makes error a fault and truth discourtesy.” —George Herbert, poet “Silence is never more golden than when a quarrel is brewing.” —Clifford Adams, marriage counselor More on next page…
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This Bride Had No Idea Date Night Was Actually Her Wedding Night
Late last month, Jenn and Lorenzo Trujillo of Leesburg, Virginia got their marriage license but had no definite plans for their wedding day. “I really just thought we would go visit the justice of the peace with a couple of friends and do it at the courthouse,” said Jenn, who ― along with Lorenzo ― is a member of the U.S. Army Band. The happy couple have been together for two and a half years. On July 7, Lorenzo pulled off the surprise of a lifetime: Under the guise of just another date night, Lorenzo threw a surprise wedding for Jenn. Surprise! The wedding is tonight. With the help of the couple’s…
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Apparently, People Who Fart In Front Of Their Partner Are More Likely To Have A Lasting Relationship
Do you find this shocking? Farting, the thing you try to avoid so frantically in front of other people particularly your partner, can actually be beneficial for your relationship. You may wonder how that is plausible, and isn’t your partner going to be bothered by the very deed, but read on, and you might change your view. Mamy people try to show the best of themselves in front of their partner in order to make them fall in love. This doesn’t mean just avoiding letting one go in front of them, but also to do many other normal, everyday activities. But, a lasting relationship is formed on sincerity and trust,…
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5 Powerfully Simple Ways to Diffuse a Fight With Your Partner
Cushion your blows (literally) A study from MIT, Harvard, and Yale shows that people are more flexible and accommodating when they sit on cushioned surfaces. Bruce Feiler, author of Secrets of Happy Families, suggests moving heated conversations to a sofa or chairs with padded seats. Start your sentences with this magic word To take an argument down a notch, start sentences with “I” not “you,” suggests Linda Hill, professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School. “This will help the other person see your perspective and understand that you’re not trying to blame them for the problem,” she told HBR.org. Ask these questions Rather than thinking about what you want…
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15 Things This Divorce Lawyer Wants All Married People To Know
Marriages go up and down with the economy Tough times makes for tough relationships, says Robert J. Lewis, Esq., a divorce lawyer at Davidoff Hutcher & Citron LLP, in New York City. “Finances are one of the main stresses on a relationship and I saw a lot of fights over money during the recession of 2008,” he explains. But paradoxically this may offer some protection to fragile relationships as divorce rates declined slightly in the America during the Great Recession of the last decade. Why? It’s simple, Lewis says: Two households are always more expensive than one and in tough times practically trumps love. It’s not about the 20-year-old hottie Do you feel like…
