You speak but don’t communicate Your communication doesn’t have to be meaningful day in and day out. But it’s troubling if you never talk with your spouse about anything beside, say, the weather or who needs to get more milk. “It’s a bad sign when speaking to each other seems superficial,” says Marni Feuerman, a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Boca Raton, Florida. “If you keep the day-to-day stuff inside, it creates distance and disconnection in your marriage,” says Feureman. That can make you feel less affection and fondness for your partner. The same goes if it’s one person doing all the talking and the other doing all the…

In the United States, divorce rates are pretty staggering, although they aren’t the highest in the world. (You can call the Maldives international divorce champions). All the couple’s therapy in America can’t atone for a near 50% divorce rate, but there’s certainly one thing that paints a clearer picture of why some couples split: their jobs. From the career guidance site Zippia, comes a data set portraying divorce rates according to job and industry for people under 30. Using Public Use Microsample Data from the US Census Bureau, the data indicates which industries are most prone to collapsing a marriage, and it isn’t particularly surprising to see military trades standing atop the mountain of…

There are obvious things that ruin marriages. Good examples are addictions to drugs, alcohol or pornography, domestic violence and infidelity. Since most couples know about these ones, they do everything they can to avoid doing them. Even if your wife and you are okay and have no addictions, there are small problems that could tear you apart. These are less obvious, of course, but they cause considerable distress when present. To avoid these little triggers, read on. Lack of respect for each other There are so many couples who disrespect each other without noticing it. It may eat away at a good marriage relationship without anyone’s knowledge. Disrespect can also…

I, a mom of three small children, left my husband and kids. Tonight I am not there to put my boys to bed. They are being put to bed by their dad, while I sit alone in my apartment down the street. I can picture the scene right now in my home: The twins are doing their best to convince their dad to let them watch just 10 more minutes of TV, while the 4-year-old makes a million excuses as to why he has gotten back out of bed. Their dad is undoubtedly patiently navigating through the toughest hour of his day, as he calmly yet decisively repeats the same…

In a marriage, fights, arguing and conflict patterns can take a life of their own. For example, most of your fights may be starting with one partner attacking, another defending and then both partners getting angry and upset and not talking to each other for some time. Patterns like these can become almost perpetual with one negative response or issue triggering a whole sequence of other responses and issues. When you are in such a sequence, even innocently teasing your spouse or trying to repair the situation may lead to a storm of negative emotions. This article will teach you five ways to not get stuck in negative patterns and…