Advice
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I DID NOT Marry The Girl Of My Dreams
The title kind of says it all: I didn’t marry the girl of my dreams. Far from it. And guess what? I couldn’t be happier. First, let me explain to you what the “girl of my dreams” used to mean to me. You see, I was a twenty something guy in college, dating girls and looking for the perfect woman. In my mind she would be a 10, of course. She had an amazing body, beautiful full lips, and eyes that would stop me dead in my tracks. But let’s not think I was too shallow, I mean… I gave her some personality traits as well. For instance,…
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8 Things The Happiest Couples Do Before Bed
Your bed should be a place for sleeping, sex and conversation — not for scrolling mindlessly through your Instagram feed. We live in a busy world and between work, kids, bills and other daily stressors, many couples struggle to find time to connect. That’s why it’s so important for couples to make the most of whatever alone time they have together ― whether it’s an hour or just 10 minutes. We asked relationship experts to tell us what the happiest couples do before bed to keep their bond strong. See what they had to say below. 1. They exchange “I love yous.” “Despite all the hassles of the day, the quirks…
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21 Great Stories About How The Wedding Night REALLY Goes
Expectations for the wedding night are high. The goal is to have the best sex of your life in the swankiest hotel room you’ve ever stayed in — all while managing to keep your eyes open after an exceedingly exhausting day. But that’s not always how things pan out. Below are 21 first-person accounts of how newlyweds actually spent their very first night as husband and wife, according to Redditorsand HuffPost readers. 1. “Having not eaten all day due to stress and nerves, we realized we were STARVING, and ordered Chinese food from the only place open at 4 a.m. We had more sex while waiting for food, then gorged…
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8 Signs That You’re Actually in a Good Marriage
Whether or not you want to admit it, it’s likely that at some point in your marriage, you’ve wondered if your marriage is “good” in the first place. You know, probably during some horrible fight, when you probably shouldn’t be asking yourself a single serious question, but there you are, questioning the big stuff. I’m no stranger to this question, mostly because I grew up with two parents who had what was decidedly a bad marriage—and I knew I just didn’t want to do whatever it was they were doing. Of course when you Google “how do you know you’re in a good marriage” you get messages that are not…
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13 Simple Tricks To A Long And Happy Marriage
It’s no secret that marriage takes work. After all, we’re only human, and humans make mistakes, have bad days and sometimes even forget to load the dishwasher (again). Nevertheless, some couples are able to foster happy, healthy, totally awesome marriages that actually do last a lifetime. How? A a Reddit thread emerged Sunday asking the happily hitched to reveal their secrets to marital success. Here’s what they had to say: 1. Be nice. “Choose kindness whenever you can — you should be AT LEAST as nice to your spouse as you would a stranger or you were when you started dating.” 2. Enjoy each other’s company. “My wife…
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9 Ways To Feel Closer In Just 5 Minutes
In the rush of trying to complete your endless to-do list, it can be easy to forget the most basic way to connect with your partner—through touch. These simple but powerful gestures are the easiest way to cement your love on a daily basis. And, in darker moments, taking five minutes to connect with your partner can let the light back in. Try one of these simple acts of affection right now. Hugging is a universal source of comfort. It conveys reassurance, togetherness, and confirms the fact that the two of you will stand strong no matter what storms may rage. Notice when your partner seems down or pensive and…
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7 Marriage Mistakes Even The Smartest Couples Make
Sure, you could tune into TV talk shows for some tough love advice about the state of your relationship, or have a sit-down for coffee with your closest girlfriends to vent about your husband’s domestic shortcomings. But have you ever considered the advice of Adam Smith or perhaps John Maynard Keynes? There’s a lot you could learn about marital bickering from these two dead economists. So say the authors of the book Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage & Dirty Dishes.Authors Paula Szuchman and Jenny Anderson, who write for The Wall Street Journal and the New York Times, have applied the market rules of cold hard capitalism to the…
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20 Questions Every Married Couple Should Ask
The honeymoon can last five days or five years, but at some point the heat and hormones subside. Susan Piver, author of the New York Times bestseller The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say “I Do“ believes that’s when “the real fun begins.” Oh, yeah? “Romance can never last, but intimacy can never end,” explains Piver, who created 20 new “phase two” questions exclusively for YourTango. She talks with us about her eye-opening exercise for anyone who has made a commitment—and is committed to making it last. If you’re up for it, and are feeling a little adventurous, then sit down with your spouse and ask…
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15 Signs You Married The Best Wife EVER!
Getting married can be terrifying. You’re basically rolling the dice sometimes and hoping for the best. But when you find the right person for you, it ends up being the best decision you’ve ever made. In case you were wondering, here are 15 signs that your wife is the absolute best decision you’ve ever made. She supports your crazy ideas We all have dreams. And dreams start off as barely hatched thoughts that need nourishment in order to become their potential. But if your spouse squashes those dreams when they’re still embryonic, it can be soul crushing. But when she helps you think through them, points out good and…
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Marriage With Kids — You’re Not Alone
Romantic relationships are a lot like the clothes in my closet. Stick with me here, I promise it will come together. When you’re dating, the relationship is like a sexy pair of leather pants: hot, steamy, and a little sweaty. After you’ve been together for a while, the relationship is like a pair of skinny jeans: They feel good most of the time, but you’re a little curious about whether or not they’ll still fit after you put them in the dryer. Then there’s marriage — ahhh, marriage. Marriage before kids is that trendy T-shirt made from free-trade cotton with an indie rock band logo on it, hugging your curves in…
