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There’s Only One Sign A Couple Should Go To Therapy
In a relationship? If the answer is “yes,” it’s time to consider couples therapy. Counseling may seem like a waste of effort when things are going smoothly, but therapists around the country say it’s always a good time to stop in; you don’t need a huge problem to be the catalyst. (A strong case can even be made for going to a marriage therapist on your own, believe it or not.) Below, therapists share six reasons why therapy works wonders for even the healthiest, happy couples. Therapy keeps you healthier as a couple, physically and mentally. “Maintenance of a happy, deeply connected relationship is just as important for your health as a…
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7 Normal Fights Even Happy Couples Have
My wife and I hate to fight, mainly because it cuts into our TV watching. Still, a whole cottage industry is encouraging us to pause ‘The Walking Dead’ to engage in open warfare, insisting that hashing stuff out is the foundation of a healthy marriage. Having enjoyed wedded bliss for 20 years myself, I’ve learned these things are actually worth the battle. Fight about: sex My wife loves hugs. If it were up to her, all we would do is hug. If she could have figured a way to have had a baby via hugs, that’s how our daughter would have been conceived. I don’t like hugs. It’s this close…
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5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage
When I got married, I was amazed at the instant, overwhelming sense of responsibility I felt to love and care for my husband. Suddenly, a huge part of someone else’s well-being and happiness was largely affected by my choices and actions. Women, we need to be careful about how we are caring for our husbands and marriages. Don’t let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life. Here are just a few ways you might be unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage (as a caveat, please understand that although this article is directed toward women, it applies to men as well):…
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How to Build Intimacy in a Marriage in 4 Steps
Building intimacy in marriage is easier said than done, especially when you have been married for some time. More often than not, couples are left alone to face their fears of turning into ‘old, boring married people’ and that happens to the best of us. In these times, you’re not just out of touch with emotional and sexual support, but also, when your life is based around no ambitions, it can have serious effects on your psychological well being. As someone who is married, you need to realize that building intimacy in marriage is the foundation of a happy and fulfilling life. Little do people know that even the…
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Your Husband Has 5 Critical Needs. Are You Meeting Them?
The key to a successful marriage is unselfishness. If you can put your spouse’s needs above your own, you are on the right track. Having the desire to fulfill your husband’s needs is in no way submitting yourself to an inferior role as a wife. If you truly love your spouse, then you want to make him happy, and these five things generally make men happy – simple as that. Every man’s needs are different; however, according to Willard F. Harley Jr., most men have the same basic needs. While each person is unique, these needs are what most men pick on average. Recreational companionship My husband and I are…
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Being Happily Married Means You’ll Be Healthier – But There Is A Catch
Is a happy marriage the key to good health? Yes, according to researchers at the University of Missouri. Overall, married people are in better mental and physical health than their unmarried — divorced or widowed — peers. The study, which followed 700 couples over 20 years, found that each partner’s health can be affected by both positive and negative interactions at all stages of marriage. The researchers reported that people who have happy marriages are more likely to give their health a higher rating as they age. The health benefits may be strong enough that working on your marriage can improve your health throughout your years as a couple. Engaging…
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12 Ways to Get the Spark Back in Your Marriage
When we first started dating our spouses, the butterflies were non-stop. For many of us the frequency of butterflies dwindled while the feelings of love remained. Then we got engaged and they returned as we walked around hand in hand with our fiancés excited about the new chapter of our lives with them. Again the flutters became less fluttery until of course, we said I do. For some couples the honeymoon period was the height of marital bliss. Those first few weeks, months, and years were some of the happiest for couples. Still on the high from getting married arguments were few and far between and comprise felt so easy “sure…
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Nonverbal Behavior That May Damage Your Marriage
It was a bright, sunny Sunday morning and church service had just let out, and a married east-coast pastor was showing off his brand-spanking new motorcycle to a large group from his congregation. He rode around in circles, demonstrating its wide range of motion, and revved the engine to show off its power. A young lady in the crowd requested a ride. Without hesitation, the young pastor agreed. She hopped on the passenger seat directly behind him, wrapping her arms tightly around his waist. She rested her head against his upper back. The pastor took the young lady around the church’s block, not gone more than two minutes. When he…
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3 Intimacy Issues that Are VERY Common in a Marriage
Intimacy is not just relevant to sex, but a deeper understanding of the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. Without intimacy in a marriage, it is just a contract with legal consequences. However, when there is intimacy in a marriage, it is one of the most beautiful feelings a person could ever ask for. Let us overview some of the most common intimacy related issues in a marriage you should avoid to have a fulfilling and happy life! Expecting Monogamy but No Action If you expect your partner to remain faithful in your marriage, you should be willing to give them the reason to…
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The No. 1 cause of divorce may not be what you think
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on Kevin A. Thompson’s blog. I’m convinced the number one cause of divorce is not adultery, financial problems, or irreconcilable difference. Those are most often symptoms of a deeper problem. While these problems might be real, I believe there is a bigger issue. The most common issue I see with couples who are struggling in marriage is a lack of intentional investment in their marriage. While it’s a fair debate of which comes first — did someone lose interest so they lost intention or did someone lose intention so they lost interest — either way there is a key idea: We can influence…
