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Mistrust and Jealousy: What Do You Do If You’re Wrongly Accused?
You love your partner, and you’ve done nothing to deserve mistrust, but you constantly face jealousy and accusations. Both of you are frustrated and upset, and you don’t know how to break the cycle. If you respond defensively, it only adds fuel to the accusations, but if you say nothing, it’s interpreted as guilt. Here are some ideas on how to break the cycle. Take a closer look through your partner’s eyes When your partner starts accusing you, don’t get triggered into reacting. Take a step back and listen to what is being said without being defensive. Try to understand what it was about your behavior that could have…
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Science Findings On Why Some Married Couples Look Alike
This article was originally posted by Arti Patel on globalnews.ca No, it’s not just in your head — there could be a scientific reason why some couples look alike. According to a recent report from the Boston University School of Public Health and the University of California, it could have something to do with genetics. “Until recently, most people picked a spouse from within their local community, and that person often had the same ancestry. Over many generations, this affinity for similar mates has created a genetic structure in the population which has the potential to bias the results of genetic studies.” researchers said in a statement. The report,…
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Become Closer to Your Spouse by Doing These 10 Awkward Things
These tips are likely to make you rather uncomfortable but it’s a good kind of uncomfortable because it’s these moments that help to create intimacy. They help you to get know one another in a deeper way and bring you closer. Ask personal questions Psychologist, Arthur Aron, used a technique in his laboratory to get two people to fall in love. It involved answering increasingly personal questions with the idea being that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. If you both agree to ask personal questions, you won’t have to feel that you’re being too nosy. Go and sit in a café, drink some coffee and ask those hard questions like “When…
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How to Get into the Mood When You Don’t Feel Like It
So, here’s a dirty little secret that not too many people are talking about. Sex is actually what helps a couple stay together. The first research on the functions of orgasm came out in the 30s. More recently the French Obstetrician Micheal Odent maintains, like many Tantra texts, that an orgasm causes a chemical reaction in the body, releasing oxytocin. This chemical is responsible for mother-child bonding during birth and breastfeeding. Biologically it ensures the survival of the species, as mothers who bond well with their children look after them better and they have a much higher chance of surviving. And guess what, so do bonded couples. Even just hugging…
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What to Do When Your Husband Isn’t Your Best Friend
Everywhere I look recently I see marriage advice telling me that I need to be friends with my husband for the marriage to work. My husband isn’t my best friend so I panicked and dived into the research. In my parents, time advice came from a religious pre-matrimonial counseling. Later on, when a marriage was getting shaky it would come from a marriage guidance counselor. Most of the husbands at the time seemed to have been against it in principle. Anyway, neither of those worked for my parents because they divorced when I was a teenager. There is advice everywhere. Now there are books and counselors and readily accessible advice.…
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11 Relationship Goals For Couples
Relationship goals are different for every couple. For instance, just look at our favorite pieces of fiction and you can see how wildly different the goals are for certain couples. For instance, in Twilight, Bella just wants to settle down with her vampire lover. But in Game of Thrones, Queen Cersei wants to take over the kingdom and just needs a man to tag along. Also, in House of Cards, Frank and Claire are hell bent on taking over the world. So don’t get down about your relationship. Regardless of where you stand, you can come up with some reasonable goals and then go about working towards achieving them with…
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5 Marriage Mistakes That Can Lead To Divorce
There are a few things that a spouse can do that are deal breakers. Relationship expert, Kim Olver, from The Relationship Center has put together 5 things that every couple needs to avoid in order to stay together. With over 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. ending in divroce, it’s important to take a look at the marriage mistakes that can lead to divorce. While researching this subject for my book, Secrets of Happy Couples, I asked happy couples what their “non-negotiables” in marriage are. One hundred couples responded about the dealbreakers in their marriages. Here is what I learned: 1. Cheating. Many respondents said that if their partner cheated on them,…
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Are Marriages Better Or Worse Than They Used To Be?
ARE marriages today better or worse than they used to be? This vexing question is usually answered in one of two ways. According to the marital decline camp, marriage has weakened: Higher divorce rates reflect a lack of commitment and a decline of moral character that have harmed adults, children and society in general. But according to the marital resilience camp, though marriage has experienced disruptive changes like higher divorce rates, such developments are a sign that the institution has evolved to better respect individual autonomy, particularly for women. The true harm, by these lights, would have been for marriage to remain as confining as it was half a century…
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The 50 Most Useful Marriage Tips EVER!
Relationship Expert and author over at YourTango, Alex Alexander, has put together an amazing list of marriage advice from the top marriage experts around the world. Every husband and wife should memorize these! We’ve asked 50 YourTango Experts to share their best marriage advice. Ranging from how to have better communication (and better sex!) to how married couples should spend some time alone, these may well be the 50 best marriage tips ever compiled. This should be required reading for every husband and wife (or future married couple). 1. If your goal is to have a satisfying marriage with longevity, make sure you are accountable for the part you play in…
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The 3 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage
Marriage is tough. But it’s also one of the most rewarding things you can do with your life. But we can’t all just believe that it’s going to be a fairy tale. And that’s where marriage expert Carol Freud comes to the rescue. In this article, she shares with us the three lies that can destroy your marriage. Your true love will fulfill you. Sound familiar? It should, because that’s just one of the big marriage-destroying lies promoted by advertising, movies, and fake love stories. Other lies perpetuated include the idea that your partner is there to make you happy and that he/she will always comfort you when you’re…
