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The Hidden Problem With Domestic Violence
So, you arrive at your neighbor’s house with your wife, ready for a relaxing evening of good food, wine and light conversation. Your neighbor gets the ball rolling and before you know it, you guys are analyzing the weekend’s game. As you sit down for dinner, his wife pulls out the big guns and talks about the domestic violence that one of her colleagues was experiencing… If only people were so open about speaking about domestic violence, but the truth of the matter is that it is a topic that is well left alone. It is a topic that is reserved for speculation and gossip. The problem is that it…
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The New Face of Infidelity (Pornography)
Infidelity used to be about having sex with someone other than your marriage partner. In the 21st century, those clear lines seem to have blurred. If you have a flirtation online and there’s no sex, should it really be considered as cheating? The advent of the internet has changed the face of infidelity, including the type of people involved and the actions that are considered to be unfaithful. Marriages are more vulnerable than ever in these tough economic times when both partners may work hard to make ends meet, leaving less time to nurture the relationship. In movies, affairs tend to be glamorized, and the internet is a whole new…
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Mistrust and Jealousy: What Do You Do If You’re Wrongly Accused?
You love your partner, and you’ve done nothing to deserve mistrust, but you constantly face jealousy and accusations. Both of you are frustrated and upset, and you don’t know how to break the cycle. If you respond defensively, it only adds fuel to the accusations, but if you say nothing, it’s interpreted as guilt. Here are some ideas on how to break the cycle. Take a closer look through your partner’s eyes When your partner starts accusing you, don’t get triggered into reacting. Take a step back and listen to what is being said without being defensive. Try to understand what it was about your behavior that could have…
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11 Relationship Goals For Couples
Relationship goals are different for every couple. For instance, just look at our favorite pieces of fiction and you can see how wildly different the goals are for certain couples. For instance, in Twilight, Bella just wants to settle down with her vampire lover. But in Game of Thrones, Queen Cersei wants to take over the kingdom and just needs a man to tag along. Also, in House of Cards, Frank and Claire are hell bent on taking over the world. So don’t get down about your relationship. Regardless of where you stand, you can come up with some reasonable goals and then go about working towards achieving them with…
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5 Marriage Mistakes That Can Lead To Divorce
There are a few things that a spouse can do that are deal breakers. Relationship expert, Kim Olver, from The Relationship Center has put together 5 things that every couple needs to avoid in order to stay together. With over 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. ending in divroce, it’s important to take a look at the marriage mistakes that can lead to divorce. While researching this subject for my book, Secrets of Happy Couples, I asked happy couples what their “non-negotiables” in marriage are. One hundred couples responded about the dealbreakers in their marriages. Here is what I learned: 1. Cheating. Many respondents said that if their partner cheated on them,…
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Are Marriages Better Or Worse Than They Used To Be?
ARE marriages today better or worse than they used to be? This vexing question is usually answered in one of two ways. According to the marital decline camp, marriage has weakened: Higher divorce rates reflect a lack of commitment and a decline of moral character that have harmed adults, children and society in general. But according to the marital resilience camp, though marriage has experienced disruptive changes like higher divorce rates, such developments are a sign that the institution has evolved to better respect individual autonomy, particularly for women. The true harm, by these lights, would have been for marriage to remain as confining as it was half a century…
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The 50 Most Useful Marriage Tips EVER!
Relationship Expert and author over at YourTango, Alex Alexander, has put together an amazing list of marriage advice from the top marriage experts around the world. Every husband and wife should memorize these! We’ve asked 50 YourTango Experts to share their best marriage advice. Ranging from how to have better communication (and better sex!) to how married couples should spend some time alone, these may well be the 50 best marriage tips ever compiled. This should be required reading for every husband and wife (or future married couple). 1. If your goal is to have a satisfying marriage with longevity, make sure you are accountable for the part you play in…
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The 3 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage
Marriage is tough. But it’s also one of the most rewarding things you can do with your life. But we can’t all just believe that it’s going to be a fairy tale. And that’s where marriage expert Carol Freud comes to the rescue. In this article, she shares with us the three lies that can destroy your marriage. Your true love will fulfill you. Sound familiar? It should, because that’s just one of the big marriage-destroying lies promoted by advertising, movies, and fake love stories. Other lies perpetuated include the idea that your partner is there to make you happy and that he/she will always comfort you when you’re…
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This Is How Long the Average Couple Dates before Getting Married
Were you waiting around forever before tying the knot with your significant other? Or did it just seem that way? And if you’re wondering why a ring has to seal the deal, you probably haven’t heard this story. Now, a survey from Bridebook, a UK-based wedding website, suggests that these days UK couples typically date for 4.9 years before walking down the aisle. Interestingly, the divorce rate is at its lowest level for nearly 50 years, and some therapists believe the reason could be that couples now enter marriage knowing their partner and relationship better than ever before. “Four years of time is a nice chunk of time to flesh…
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5 Ways Marriage Is Harder in 2017 (and What You Can Do About It)
The unique hurdles couples are dealing with in the modern age — from social media to more baggage. Today, the role of marriage as an essential part of the transition to ‘adulthood’ has become less defined. It’s no secret that marriage looks a lot different today than it has in years past. Change is inevitable, and as time progresses each new generation of married couples has a fresh set of distinct challenges and parameters to navigate. However, there are some trends that have remained the same for decades regardless of the landscape. Take, for example, the fact that when an increase in salary occurs in a given area, more marriages…
