Advice
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If You Use This One Word, You Will Ruin Your Apology
Uh-oh! You’re in the doghouse again. Regardless of what you did (or said) to offend the other person, you need to fess up, and fast. But still, tread lightly; saying the wrong thing could quickly turn your apology from frank to false. “As I explain in my book, the challenge of apologizing is not just a matter of saying the right words, because apologizing with the wrong words can feel worse to the hurt party than no apology at all,” psychologist Harriet Lerner, PhD, wrote for Psychology Today. In fact, there’s an almost surefire way to turn an apology into an insult—and it only takes a single, two-letter word to do so.…
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This Is Everyone’s Biggest Bedroom Pet Peeve—and It Isn’t Snoring
While sharing a bed with your partner has its indisputable perks, getting some peaceful shut-eye may not exactly be a blissful utopia. What was once mutual, selfless love can rapidly transform into an egomaniacal sparring game between the sheets. Bedroom habits are fickle and don’t often align perfectly; loud snoring and overactive body temperatures can spark a bedroom madness that’s not the good kind. In fact, those are just a few of the reasons why married couples sleep in separate beds. However, the top pet peeve of the bedroom isn’t what you’d expect, according to a new survey of 1,000 people by Mattress Inquirer, an industry group. For the study, participants…
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Signs to Read to Know Your Marriage Partner and You are Getting Isolated
Isolation is a common challenge faced by those in marriage. Even if a marriage is so great, it can’t be spared by this disease called isolation. It happens when a couple drifts apart smoothly without recognizing it. When things are so bad, that’s when the two recognize that something is going on. If you want to know if your spouse and you are isolated, look for the following signs. You both seem to have gotten used to each other and have developed an attitude of not caring or trying to solve anything. A deep feeling that he or she is detached from you. Being reluctant to solve problems because you…
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5 Ways To Make Small Gestures Count In Your Marriage
If you think you need grand gestures to show your spouse love you may be mistaken. In fact, many studies speak to the fact that the secret to long-lasting love are small gestures such as cooking your partner a meal or cleaning up afterwards without him or her asking you to do so. One of the things that Alana values about Tim is his ability to show love through his actions. Alana puts it like this: It’s the everyday moments that matter. When I forget to bring in the mail (even when I am the first person home) and Tim says he’s glad to go fetch it and water all…
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3 Marital Communication Tips
Communication is the key to a healthy marriage. We have all heard this advice before and may have taken it to heart. But while this sentiment is true at its core, it can be very difficult to understand and take action on. What exactly is good communication, and how do we improve it? It can be difficult and even frightening to be completely open and honest with your spouse, and though eager, many people don’t really know where to begin. But, the process of developing your communication skills is absolutely worth it and it is simpler than you might think. Below, we’ve listed three ways you can begin working on…
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10 Surefire Ways to Destroy a Relationship
Some relationships appear to be healthier than others but all relationships have their struggles. It is possible for some struggles to make a relationship stronger but there are certain issues that are very destructive and make it difficult for a relationship to survive. Here are 10 ways you can destroy your relationship. Expect your partner to complete you If you’re looking for a partner to be all things to you – your protector, lover, entertainer, psychotherapist and parent – you will inevitably suffer disappointment. You make your happiness dependent upon the other person and want him or her to be with you all the time. This is more of a…
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Uh Oh. She’s Crying, AGAIN! What Should I Do
To your horror, you look over at her and see her eyes filling with tears…again. To be fair, men are starting to cry a bit too now, averaging up to three times a month, roughly half of the episodes that a woman will go through. Apparently, men are not so embarrassed anymore about it either. Women despite their experience with tears seem to have more difficulty in doing it in public. Some have difficulty doing it in front of their partners, and of course, some are deeply embarrassed about crying at work. Some women will happily admit to having a loose faucet and will cry readily even at lesser things.…
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How to Deal with Meddling Parents or Parents-in-law
It’s possible this scenario may sound a bit familiar: you and your spouse are having a family get-together, and Mom and Dad are being meddlesome and interfering. You and your spouse exchange glances and mutual eye-rolls and can’t wait for it to be over. Now, you think twice about inviting them over or asking them to watch the kids because they just don’t seem to understand that their actions are bothering you. Here are some tips for dealing with meddling parents (whether they’re your own or your spouse’s): Do they know they’re interfering? Often parents do things with the best of intentions, and in their minds, they’re helping you…
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The Rules All Couples Should Follow to Fight Fair
Disagreement between couples is inevitable. Even the strongest marriages run into conflict. But what defines marriages that survive conflict is how the couple manages to settle their dispute. These couples have rules for fighting fair, and most of them have laid down these ground rules with each other so that when they disagree, they can constructively reach a resolution. Identify the real issue When couples disagree, the argument often becomes a vessel for them to bring up issues from the past and rake them over again and again. It is important that the couple can define what the disagreement is about and confine themselves to the matter at hand…
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Signs that You Have Awesome In-laws
The stereotypical meddling, overbearing in-laws, is an unfortunate reality for many a spouse. Because the way we were raised is different, and the dynamics of our homes are different, it’s bound to happen that it takes time to get to know our in-laws and for them to get to know you. Sometimes, a lucky few strike the jackpot and get in-laws who are loving and supportive and who accept you with open arms. Here are some signs that should show you that you have awesome in-laws: Your in-laws think you’re awesome When your in-laws accept you as a member of the family and treat you like a second set…
