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8 Myths About Marriage You Can Safely Ignore

Myth: You’ll always split everything evenly

Don’t expect marriage to always be perfectly fair, with each partner contributing equally to everything from household chores to financial obligations. There will be times when one of you picks up the slack in one or more departments, and it’s not realistic or fair to try keep track of who’s pulling more weight, according to marriage and family therapist Aaron Anderson. Contributing in the best way possible given your unique set of circumstances is what’s important—and should be appreciated. Try these six fun ways to feel closer right now!

Myth: Having children will strengthen your bond

Starting a family can be beautiful, wonderful, and meaningful—but it won’t necessarily bring you and your partner closer. Especially not at first, when the round-the-clock demands of raising a child can place even more stress on a marriage, causing any pre-existing troubles to magnify rather than diminish.

Myth: You can kiss your sex life good-bye

Hollywood perpetuates the notion that only single people have fun between the sheets. But married couples are actually the ones having more sex, research shows. Chalk it up to factors such as proximity, an understanding of non-verbal cues, emotional intimacy, and a shared sexual history. Steal the habits of couples with steamy sex lives to keep your relationship hot.

Myth: Most marriages end in divorce

You’ve probably heard the frequently repeated statistic that 50 percent of marriages fail. Although it’s commonly cited, it’s not accurate. A host of variables, including socio-economic factors, demographics, and even skewed logic, has led to a misinterpretation of that statistic over time. For example, for every two marriages that took place in the 1990s, there was one divorce. However, this doesn’t mean that the divorce rate is 50 percent across the board, because it’s simply not representative of all marriages over time. Don’t miss the marriage advice for newlyweds that every couple should read.

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