The 50 Most Useful Marriage Tips EVER!
21. Before you get mad or assign blame, take a breath and ask your partner for his or her perspective.
For instance, it’s your spouse’s job to walk the dog in the morning, but you discover dog poop on the kitchen floor and cleaning it up makes you late for work. Instead of immediately placing blame, saying something like, “I’m puzzled about what happened with Spot this morning,” is a gentle way to start a conversation. – Jean Fitzpatrick. L.P
22. Make a list of three of the happiest moments in your marriage.
Spend a few minutes each day briefly reliving those moments in your mind. The results will amaze you. – Lucia, Dating Coach
23. You can change your relationship for the better by increasing the use of the following statements:
“I love you”, “I’m here for you”, “I understand”, “I’m sorry”, “Thank you”, “I really appreciate all that you do”, “It’s so nice to see you”, “That was quite an accomplishment!” – Gina Spielman
24. Appreciate your partner at least five times each day.
Appreciate them from your heart about who they are at their essence. Leave gratitude in love notes, hide them so they will find them, or look deeply into their eyes and tell them. Be creative! – Linda Marie, RN, BSN
25. In order to keep the spark alive and avoid “roommate syndrome,” couples have to understand the notion of spending “time” together versus creating “sacred” time together.
Spending time at social events, time with family and doing “chores” together does not count as sacred time. Instead, carve out special time to not only be intimate, but also ensure that you continue to share new experiences together such as hiking, exploring someplace new, or arranging a stay-cation in your own city. – Marni Battista, CPC
26. Compliment your spouse everyday!
A compliment is a sign of acknowledgment and appreciation. Make an effort to affirm your spouse’s value in life, and in love. – Nicole Johnson, Dating and Relationship Coach
27. Create a clear vision of your shared future together.
Sit down, listen to each other and write out how you want your future as a couple to look. It’s much easier to create your best relationship together if both people’s needs are voiced, heard and supported by their partner. – Eve Agee, PhD
28. Censor every impulse to blame or criticize your partner.
Do everything you can to support your partner’s well-being, and respect your partner as you would your best friend. – John Gerson, Ph.D
29. You need to date your mate. Date night is sacred and special and should be on the same day of the week every week. One week the wife should suggest the date idea and the husband should come up with the date night plan for the opposite week. This encourages both the husband and wife to be invested in date night. – Julie Spira, Dating and Relationship Coach
30. Learn and practice Tantra. – Judith Condon
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