10 Open Marriage Secrets People Want To Share

6. Sometimes a third partner can even live with the couple.

As was the case with Zaeli and Joe when they invited her boyfriend to move in with them. “People think of this as a home-wrecking. But this can be a nice family structure,” said Zaeli.

7. People in open marriages prize keeping their marriages “normal.“

Meaning that even though the marriage is open, they still try to keep things as normal as they can between each other.

8. Open marriages make them more open, sexually.

Dominus said that many of the people she talked to said their open marriage “changed the nature of their sexuality.” They opened up to role-playing or a desire to sleep with someone of the same sex.

9. Open marriage is an option for people who crave differences in their marriage but still want to be married.

As Dominus pointed out, openness in a marriage lets couples keep their relationship but also keep their individuality. Many people see it as a natural progression to the growing variety of family arrangements.

10. Like any relationship, there are pros and cons.

As Daniel, one of the people interviewed for the article, said, sometimes it can be hard to be in one relationship when you’re distracted by the other. “There is a third person in our relationship who is pervasively there and not there. The theory of nonmonogamy is easier than the practice.” But then, he mentioned that one of the benefits was that both he and his wife were more introspective, and sexually excited, within their marriage as a result of the openness: “We are playing in the sexual energy often, and it feels really good. We are having a lot more fun together.”

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