Understanding Emotions

I’m there at your side, I’m part of all the things you are

But you’ve got a part of someone else

You’ve got to find your shining star

And where are you now, now that I need you?

Tears on my pillow wherever you go

I’ll cry me a river that leads to your ocean

You never see me fall apart

In the words of a broken heart

It’s just the emotion that’s taken me over

Tied up in sorrow, lost in my soul

But if you don’t come back

Come home to me, darling

You know that there’ll be nobody left in this world to hold me tight

Nobody is left in this world to kiss goodnight

Goodnight

Everyone of us have our good and bad days, and whether its the Beegees with Samantha Sang or another song about this confusing state of being, having emotions is what defines living in a lively world. The real trick though is learning to manage ourselves and these three emotions in public.

ANGER Possibly THE hardest to control, as the smallest tick can have us be our worst selves. Various amounts of stress also lead us to lash out against the other, and unfortunately lashing out can have its own consequences.

IMPATIENCE Learning to respect the fact that not everyone is the same, and would require more time takes effort by the listener. Having that sense of empathy in understanding various points of view so that you are a shoulder that someone can lean on for support is rewarding.  There might not always be a solution to an issue, but recognizing that someone would understand your point of view would be rewarding enough.

HAPPINESS Life has its struggles, but recognizing when to be miserable versus recognizing when to be happy is an art. Being too optimistic comes across as the person being unrealistic and naive, but being too sad comes across as being needy and taking a trip to see a therapist. Life isn’t all bad, but undoubtedly there would always be those who wouldn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel, where one would just have to be mindful of not getting too unhappy when around them.

While it can be true that under patriarchal rules, men aren’t called out as much on being angry or impatient, it still remains that anger and impatience are still important emotions to control in a social environment.

“This land belongs to you and me” after all!