How to Discover Your Core Intimacy Gifts
Honoring our Core Gifts
Whenever you feel a Core Gift inside you, take an extra moment to stay with your experience. Appreciating the feeling will deepen you and allow that same gift to come up more frequently. Love of self and love of another begin with the honoring of our Core Gifts. As we learn to do this, we begin to feel more certain of who we are and what we are meant to do in the world.
I have found that the wisest way to get a handle on our gifts is to stand back a bit and allow a sense of awe for them. I have practiced this many times with my clients as they have revealed the depth of their love, their need, their tenderness, and their hurt. In those moments, I feel like a witness more than anything else. Imagine standing in front of the vastness of the Grand Canyon. You can’t simply traverse it. You can’t enlarge it or shrink it. But you can stand on the edge of its vastness and feel awe. Awe disappears when we chip away at ourselves for our imperfections. It returns when we name our gifts and recognize their humanity. Until we learn to name and cherish our Core Gifts, we will diffuse the very attributes which lead us to the kind of love we are seeking.
To ignore our Core Gifts is to commit an act of quiet violence against ourselves. To honor them is one of the most powerful acts of self-love we can achieve.
© 2014 Ken Page, LCSW. All Rights Reserved
Source: Shambhala Publications
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This article originally appeared on Psychology Today
