Let’s start by defining what makes a person or entity an enemy. We assign them that label. And when I impart that we have the control, some seem to take the implication that this means we are the ass because we prolong the pain and the venom. This is a wrong assumption. I am not saying, well, you are causing this ongoing cycle of obsessive hatred…but that is the reality, isn’t it? I am saying, realize you are in control and you get to decide your course of action (one of my faves is to DO NOTHING) but because you are steering the boat, you are in charge of the…

Monkey Business Images/ShutterstockJudging from the images the popular media puts forth, you’d think sex was only for twenty somethings. Nothing is further from the truth. Sex at midlife and beyond is a subject mired in confusion and misinformation. Here are some common myths, and the straight story about sex after 50. sirtravelalot/ShutterstockMyth: Beyond a certain age, people have little interest in sex. Fact: There is no age limit on sexuality, but for people age 50 and over, sexual satisfaction depends more on the overall quality of the relationship than it does for younger couples. A National Council on Aging survey reports that among people age 60 and over who have regular intercourse,…

They were nervous First dates are hardly ever smooth experiences. At least one or both of you are nervous about putting yourself out there and trying to get to know a new person. There is a whole slew of doubts that can run through your mind, making the dating process anything but easy. When someone is feeling overwhelmed like this, you can end up walking away from your first date with a less-than-stellar impression. But according to Melissa Divaris Thompson, a New York City-based marriage and family therapist, that’s not always a reason to put an ‘X’ next to that person’s name.”Sometimes you don’t get an accurate first impression because…

Your bed is more than just a piece of furniture. It is a part of your health care routine! Dipa Singha Your bed is not just a piece of furniture. It is an important part of your home because it will reenergize yourself to meet the demands of the present day world. A sound sleep is the key to rejuvenating your body and mind. It is directly associated with the productivity of the individual. A fit body and mind are crucial to achieve the highest success along with other skills. One should never ignore the body signals which may arise due to uneven sleep. The biggest question then arise what’s…

Is there anyone who hasn’t gotten caught in the crossfire on social media lately? Doesn’t it make you wonder what makes people act so mean? This article from Psychology Today compares our ubiquitous connectivity, and the illusion of anonymity it gives us, to road rage – that tendency that some drivers have to cut people off, or flip people off, or yell obscenities as they fly past you at least 90 in a 70 zone. The article makes a good point. People in cars are, in a sense, armored. They have a sense of untouchability. And people on the internet have a sense of unreachability, the interface of the keyboard…

We often confuse being productive with working as fast as we can, every second of the day. We fear that slowing down to get organized will kill our productivity, but the facts suggest otherwise: The average office employee spends over one hour each day just looking for things. The average U.S. Executive spends six weeks per year searching through messy desks and disorganized files for misplaced information. 23% of adults say they’re late paying their bills because they lose them. Being disorganized is costly, in terms of both money and time. But if you can convince yourself to slow down and get organized, the ROI will shock you. For every…

They were nervous First dates are hardly ever smooth experiences. At least one or both of you are nervous about putting yourself out there and trying to get to know a new person. There is a whole slew of doubts that can run through your mind, making the dating process anything but easy. When someone is feeling overwhelmed like this, you can end up walking away from your first date with a less-than-stellar impression. But according to Melissa Divaris Thompson, a New York City-based marriage and family therapist, that’s not always a reason to put an ‘X’ next to that person’s name.”Sometimes you don’t get an accurate first impression because…

Communication, like using peanuts to tame an elephant, will give you greater control over the situation and is your only chance of solving the problem. by Benjamin Ritter Leave a Comment — There’s an elephant in the room, and it’s getting in the way of your relationship. The metaphor, much like the beast itself, referring to an obvious problem being ignored, can trample your relationship. Ignoring an obvious problem is a type of conflict avoidance strategy. People fear the stress and negativity that could result, especially for pointing out what feels like an “obvious” problem, but you can’t predict what will happen when an issue is brought up until it is discussed.…