8 Empowering Marriage Goals To Work On Together
Frequent physical intimacy
This can be simple touching, kissing, cuddling, hand holding, frisking, playful bum smacking or squeezing and of course, intimacy in the bedroom. The simple stuff is where to start if you’re feeling completely disconnected and make sure it’s frequent. We only have this level of physical intimacy with our spouse so appreciate that someone wants to be physical with you, understand the chemical importance of it and nurture it, daily.
Suggested dose: several times a day, minimum.
Shared goals
Spend time discussing shared goals and ensuring you are on track to achieve them. Shared goals keep the vision on the shared unit and give you something to get excited about, and work towards, together. Shared goals keep us growing together rather than apart. Shared goals can be simple things like a goal to eat in a new restaurant together every month or to engage in a new activity every two months or buying a holiday home together.
Suggested dose: every fortnight, minimum.
Personal goals
Spend time working on personal goals as this will help ensure your health and happiness and support one another in achieving your individual goals. Maxwell Maltz: “Man maintains his balance, poise, and sense of security only as he is moving forward.” A stagnant life often leads to a stagnant marriage. We cannot be happy in a marriage if we are not happy within ourselves. Two happy people make a happy marriage.
Suggested dose: several times a week, minimum.
Socialising with family and friends and acquaintances
Human beings are a fundamental source of support and happiness and thus are integral in helping us to maintain a happy marriage. They also help us to maintain a broader perspective on life, even if you are introverted and prefer your own company most of the time. Lack of human interaction can result in skewed thinking and lack of perspective. If you lack friendships and family members you get on with, seek out new friendships or at least connect with other human beings in a healthy way via meet-up groups and activity clubs.
Suggested dose: once a week or fortnight, minimum, for the extroverts or once a fortnight or every three weeks, minimum, for the introverts.
Use the 8 goals areas above to set yourself some specific goals over how you will achieve the above at the suggested frequency. I have taken into account that some people have very hectic family lives, particularly when there are young children in the home, too. Nurture your marriage daily, take care of your own well-being, and maintain a genuine, deep appreciation for one another to stay bonded for the long-haul.
This article was first published by Sam Owen on his blog.
