10 Little Things That Make A Great Husband
#7 Learn the Love Languages
This is huge. There is a famous book called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Basically, it says that we all give and receive love differently. They are: (1) touch, (2) giving of gifts, (3) spending time together, (4) words *saying I love you and other compliments*, and (5) acts of service *doing things to help them*.
So, if one of you expresses love by touch, and the other person wants to hear words, then this can be tricky. Each one of you doesn’t recognize that the other person is expressing love in different language. So, ask her how she wants to receive love, and then express your love that way.
#8 Understand each other’s personality types
Another really helpful hint for being the best husband is to learn more about each other’s personality types. Go online and take a Myers-Briggs personality test. It will tell you everything you need to know about each other.
Once you understand the personality differences between the two of you, then you can be more tolerant and patient with one another. You’ll never be exactly alike *that would be boring*, but appreciating the differences will help you get along a lot better.
#9 Don’t get lazy or let yourself go
Some people think that once they’re married, they don’t have to put in any effort anymore because the “chase” is over. But that’s when the real work starts! The fun part was the pre-marriage phase.
Don’t get fat and unhealthy. Don’t lay around the house like a blob while she’s running around like a crazy person trying to hold the family and household together. Take care of yourself, take care of her, and take care of the family.
#10 Don’t forget date nights
Just because you’re married, that doesn’t mean that the romance has to die. Sure, having kids is exhausting, but you can’t forget to be lovers just because of that. The two of you need to have time alone to keep the romance alive.
So, in order to be the best husband, you have to plan date nights. They don’t have to be expensive or elaborate, but you do have to have them. Trust me, you’ll thank me for this advice someday.
This article was originally published on LovePanky
